Post # 32
my e rong isnt one which i would have chosen, i ad something completely different in mind.
my Fiance went out, chose the ring, bought the ring and proposed to me with the ring i am wearing on my finger – and i love it! why would i ever want to change it?
yes there are always other rings, bigger rocks, larger carats etc and maybe in a few years time we would be able to buy one of those rings – but that wouldnt make it my ering.
i love the one he chose me, its unique and special to us as a couple.
if you want to upgrade you ring- then go for it, but to me it really would feel right.
obviously there are circumstances that cant be helped – if ering is lost/stolen etc, but unless my ring is lost or stolen then i wouldnt change it.
Post # 33
I don’t think so. This is why Fiance wanted to get me a great Engagement Ring to start with. It is not huge, but to me the e-ring is something that isn’t ‘upgraded’ (although I totally respect people who do, everyone has their own logic)
Post # 34
I just upgraded my ring. Back when he proposed he didnt have the money to get me a super nice ring. Although I didn’t care. But when I was given the opportunity to upgrade, who can say no? Lol. The sentiment is still there. He proposed when he didnt have a job, with money he didnt really have (my ring cost 100 dollars!). I’m keeping my original just because I like to look at it and remember that man that dressed up for a day in the park, who got mad at the family in the way of where he wanted to propose, and just took out the ring. Lol.
Post # 35
I am another one who thinks that upgrading loses the sentiment of it. I can understand if something happened to the original ring. My mom is upgrading hers cause her main stone fell out and she is getting a huge upgrade, and she is really excited so I am super happy for her. my husband told me that he would feel sad if I wanted to upgrade for no reason though. I am not judging anyone who chooses to upgrade, but for me personally, I would rather get a right hand ring and still wear my wedding rings.
Post # 36
No. In my opinion, if you get a different ring, it is not the ring you were given- so it is not your engagement ring. If I wanted more diamonds I would get a right hand ring. And so on.
Post # 37
I would never upgrade. My ring is amazing, and I want to keep the ring that was given to me by my Fiance when he was on one knee in front of me asking me to be his wife!
Post # 38
I feel like an engagement ring is a very personal thing, so I think that the definition of “engagement ring” is up to the wearer. We all have different preferences on stones, metals, sizes, etc, so why can’t we have different preferences on terminology? Personally, I have no problem with upgrading (in fact, I’m in the process of doing so now), but I probably won’t call it an “engagement ring”, I’ll just refer to it as my “wedding set” (which it absolutely will be).
Post # 39
I suspect that some of the new bees might not realize that an engagement ring setting can start to look really worn over time. We placed my diamond into a new setting at the end of 2011—after having the original for more than a decade—and we still consider the new setting an engagement ring.
I’m wondering what was behind this question. Did a friend or family member upgrade or switch settings? Are you upset that someone you know is calling her ring an engagement ring after having it changed? Why does it rub you the wrong way, and why should somebody else’s engagement/wedding story matter to anybody other than the couple making those choices? These types of questions, in my opinion, revolve around social comparison issues. Not really trying to sound combative here, just offering my initial reaction.
Post # 40
Lol what if it’s lost, stolen, broken, etc and she gets a new ring.. is she never able to have an engagement ring ever again?
The same goes for a wedding ring/wedding band. Is it only a wedding ring if it was put on that finger during a ceremony? NO! If a woman has a ring on her ring finger and it has a stone (vs a flatter band/simpler band), you can assume it’s an engagement ring. It’s not like anyone is going to ever say, “That’s not your engagement ring! He didn’t propose with that!”
More and more guys are proposing with gemstone/cubic rings and then taking their lady to a jewelry store to pick out something she’d like. It doesn’t make the ring they get later any less of an engagement ring.
Post # 41
I work for a jewlery store and I can tell you that most women will upgrade. Most women do it on a anniersary instead of getting a new ring they will either keep there setting and get a bigger diamond or they will keep there diamond and get a diffrent setting.
To me upgrading/ redesigning is no big deal. Jelery goes in and out of style just like clothes or shoes. I know I plan to upgrade my ring from my 2cttw e ring double band set to a 4cttw ering and double band set in the future! same ring just bigger
Post # 42
Lovenewbooks – theres honestly nothing behind this post. Im sorry if it upset people. 🙁 I just really like to think about this sort of stuff, I find it interesting. I study a lot of philosophy. I was just thinking about it for a while and wanted to know what other people thought. No judgemet at all, Im just trying to decide how I feel about it for myself.
Do the settings wear that easily? I always thought rings could be passed down and all that? Can you just polish it up or does it get thinner?
Also, I always thought the wedding band was a bit different than the engagement ring because your still married but your only engaged for that amount of time.
Post # 43
lol who cares? I would still consider it an engagement ring. It’s what the ring symbolizes to the person wearing it that matters.
Post # 44
There are many good reasons to ‘upgrade’. My grandmother got a new set for an aniversery, proabably when my grandfather could afford a better set. As my ring is an heirloom ring I probably wouldn’t think twice about handing it down when the time came. In which case I think an upgrade would be necisary.
I think i would refer to it as an aniversary ring when the time came though, not really an e-ring.
Post # 45
I don’t think it matters.
My grandmother got a larger diamond after she and my grandfather had been married for several years. To me, getting a new ring wouldn’t diminish the sentimental value. Things happen.
Post # 46
Of course it is. And like my marriage, it got better as the years went by.