If you could do it again, would you elope?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
  • poll: If you could do it again, would you elope?

    Yes - just me and my fiance

    No - loved the big wedding

    Kinda - would have a small wedding with immediate family/close friends only

  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

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    lerna :  We had a very very very small non-traditional wedding. And honestly I’d elope alone if we could do it over.

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

    I’m torn between elope or intimate with 10 ppl or less. If we’d eloped I would have liked it to be in Costa Rica where we got engaged. If it was a tiny wedding I would have preferred maybe a private yacht cruise with cocktails. I enjoyed our wedding…but wouldn’t do it over again. The marriage is whats important, weddings are fluff.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee

    No. I loved my wedding and had an amazing, unforgettable day. I am so glad we didn’t elope like we originally planned. 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Nope! Our wedding was awesome, about 200 people, all of our family and friends had an amazing time. We had a great band and the dance floor was packed till the bitter end. 

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee

    We eloped and I would do it over and over again. Best decision we could have made! But I NEVER wanted anything bigger, he just wanted me to be happy, so it was an easy choice. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee

    I’ve never been a big wedding person, didn’t enjoy planning it, never ‘dreamed of my wedding’ when I was a kid, and hate being the centre of attention – but i ended up LOVING my big wedding. It was way more meaningful to me than I thought it would be. Mind you I didn’t waste a lot of time on the aesthetic details like centrepieces, flowers and bridesmaid dresses. I focused on the people, food & drink, and making it fun. 

    That said, I would I would have paired the guest list down from 150 to 100 max.

    either way – focus on your relationship and the people you love. Forget about pinteresty fairy tale fluff and you’ll be way better off. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Yes and no. I wanted to elope originally – ideally, to run off to Vegas and be married by an Elvis impersonator. Honestly and truly, I would have LOVED to do this, and I suggested it to DH!

    However, DH wanted a ceremony his grandmother could attend. That really didn’t appeal to me at all, but making DH happy and having happy families meant more to me than some “vision”. Ultimately, married is married, and we could have gone to Vegas for the honeymoon and redone a wedding there if it really mattered. The feelings of the family who would have missed it would have persisted for years and perhaps have made his family think less of me (as I am sure they would never have believed he wanted to do that). That’s part of the reason I think that people who elope when they have family who really want to see them get married is short-sighted and selfish. But my ceremony was my business and anyone else’s is theirs, so it’s none of my business. 

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I had a big (165 people) wedding and LOVED it. So much joy and fun. But the marriage didn’t last. This time around, we’re going to elope. I can’t see doing another big wedding, but I don’t regret the first one. 

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee

    I loved my “large” (115 people) wedding, however I hated the stress of planning it. My DH and I “joked” about eloping during planning, but we knew it would hurt some people, and we bad been dreaming about our wedding day our whole lives so ultimately I’m really glad we had big wedding. I don’t think I’d change it if I could go back, I know I would have really regretted it if we eloped instead. What other excuse do you have to wear a veil and ballgown and throw a big ol fancy party with all your friends and family? 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I absoultely loved our 65 person wedding and wouldn’t have changed it for the world. For us, getting married without being able to share the love and joy with our close family and friends would have been something I would have seriously regretted. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

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    lerna :  

    Absolutely!  We were married in SoCal so the Vegas thing would have been so easy.  I would have loved to have just done one of the package deals and be done with it.

    My concern was for dh’s elderly mother who has since passed.  I thought it was important that she be able to attend our wedding.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee

    We had a 65 person wedding and due to some family members’ behaviour during planning and the day of our wedding.. I wish we had of eloped. But hindsight is a wonderful thing…

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    lerna :  We had about 80 guests, and it was a lovely event, but if I had it to do over we’d elope.  DH wanted to in the first place.  He was right.  🙂

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee

    I did not enjoy the big wedding I had the first time around. Luckily I get to do it again (divorce) and this time we will elope!  

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