If you could do it again, would you elope?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
  • poll: If you could do it again, would you elope?

    Yes - just me and my fiance

    No - loved the big wedding

    Kinda - would have a small wedding with immediate family/close friends only

  • Post # 16
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Absolutely not. We had a great time with our 70 person event and funky art space venue and most important friends and family (who were able to be there) with us. I’d do it all over again- though I will say that it definitely helped that I had a good friend who gifted us her services as an event planner and day of coordinator. That alleviated a lot of the stress.

    Post # 17
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    Bumble bee

    I would absolutely elope if I could go back in time.  Big weddings are for the birds.  And by birds I mean extroverts with non dysfunctional families and a lotta cash.  

    Post # 18
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    Worker bee

    We eloped overseas after being together for almost 10 years! loved it and would do it again. It was about us rather than pleasing everyone else. Also hate planning and making decisions like “what colour will my napkins & co be ?” ๐Ÿ˜œ

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    We had a perfect wedding for us. A formal yet intimate wedding with 60 close friends and family. Was exactly what we wanted ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    I couldn’t imagine getting married without my family and friends. We had a large wedding but I wouldn’t do anything differently 

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We didn’t have a huge wedding but it wasn’t small either (97 people) I’m also not sure how traditional it was, laid back Sunday afternoon reception. However, we both loved it .It was one of the best days of my life. We had briefly thrown around the idea of eloping but I’m so glad we didn’t. I would never trade having my family and friends there. We had a blast. 

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    Yes and no. I had a medium sized wedding (60 people) but large for us considering we would have preferred 10. I’ve never thought about the big wedding, it’s not something I’ve dreamed of. I hated planning it, hated spending money on it. But there is something about having all your favourite people in one room, at one time, all feeling such love to you and your partner. My view is slightly coloured by the fact that I’ve also lost 3 members of my family since our wedding 2 years ago so having them there for that is so special now. It was also the last big thing all 3 family members enjoyed and I’m glad I could give them that. So I don’t regret having the big wedding and I’m glad we focussed on the people who attended not the other fluff.

    However, if I find myself doing it again (and the other person agrees). My preference would be to pick a date and have an informal thing with just a few people, giving everyone only a few weeks notice. Partly, I don’t want the stress and also because I’ve lost some of my favourite people so I wouldn’t have the same feeling at wedding no 2 of all my favourite people in one space.

    Post # 23
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    I voted that we’d elope just the two of us, due to cost primarily, though we don’t get married until later this month. I’ll be interested to see whether I still feel that way on the day though ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 25
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    Newbee

    I’m in the planning stage and I definitely feel like running away and eloping at times… But I just couldn’t imagine a day not filled with the love of everyone close to us. 

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I wouldn’t do it any differently if I could go back in time (we had about 100 guests). But I don’t think I’d do it again in the future.

    Post # 27
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    852 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    If I could do it all over again, I would save the 60K we spent on our 200+ person wedding, and have a destination wedding instead. My wedding day was amazing but I still get heart palpitations thinking about how much money we spent for ONE day. I would much rather have that 60K in the bank, or have been able to use it towards the down payment on our house. Plus a destination wedding would have cut our guest list down dramatically. 

    Post # 28
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    697 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I am currently planning the wedding and going from feeling elated to annoyed several times a day. If I hadn’t booked some things already, I would consider eloping now and having an even more low-key party afterwards.

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Traditional catholic italian wedding with 170 people. Everyone is STILL talking about how great our wedding was (we got married in Oct)… but honestly if I could do it over again, I would’ve eloped just us.

    Big weddings = not my thing.

    Post # 30
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

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    lerna :  We had a wedding of about 110 people, for me the wedding stress (mostly family drama) was not worth it to me at all and I would absolutely elope if I was given the choice again. 

    My husband originally wanted to elope, or just have our immediate family, and I shut that down pretty fast. I’m sure if we had of eloped there would have been some backlash from family, but it still would have been worth it to elope. 

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