If you could do it again, would you elope?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
  • poll: If you could do it again, would you elope?

    Yes - just me and my fiance

    No - loved the big wedding

    Kinda - would have a small wedding with immediate family/close friends only

  • Post # 31
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    1640 posts
    Bumble bee

    We had a 50 person wedding onsite where we provided lodging and it was a weekend event.  It was a ton of stress to plan this small but elaborate beast.  But, I wouldn’t change it.  It was a dream and such a special experience for my husband and me and all of our families.  We all got closer as a family through the process.  We are naturally pretty independent, so this bridged a lot of gaps.  

    For our one year anniversary, we did the drive thru wedding chapel in Las Vegas to renew our vows.  It felt like the best of both worlds.  

    Post # 32
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    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I am not sure if my response really counts toward this because my wedding didn’t happen. My fiance and I spent about a year planning our wedding, and it felt apart because his mother got upset that were attended a wedding related party and disowned him/cancelled our wedding contracts (she and my parents were covering the wedding.) It was going to be very traditional, large, and complete luxury package. I had originally wanted to elop, and so did my fiance, but she guilted us into the bigger wedding, and then she took control over everything. Even with the control issues aside, I had begun to dread going againt my gut instinct about the eloping rather than have a large and traditional wedding. I am not great at being the center of attention, and neither is my fiance. Neither of us like celebrating ourselves because we are generally shy and introverted people. We are now eloping, and everything feels so much lighter and easier. I bought a new dress that would be more appropriate for where we are eloping, and I feel so much more beautiful in it than I did my old gown. I know that this isn’t the same as having experienced the entirety of my original wedding plan. It may have been better than the year of dread I had about it; I guess I’ll never know. I can say that I have not felt this calm or giddy about my marriage ceremony in a very long time. I do think it comes down to a whole gut feeling/preference versus what feel we are supposed to do, and I think that those things easily become muddled when it comes to a wedding, especially because of how many people are involved and how many opinions you receive, whether you want them or not. 

    Post # 33
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    5020 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I eloped and have zero regrets.  It was everything I had wanted and more. A beautiful and intimate day shared with my now DH, on the opposite side of the country from where we reside. Less stress and we also spent very little compared to others who have traditional weddings.

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