(Closed) If you could do it all over again…

posted 9 years ago in Recaps
Post # 32
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh I forgot the most important thing– I would have made our reception longer!  DH agrees! It went by so fast!  We had such a lovely time, and so did our guests, and we were stunned when it was time to leave. Would have added at least one more hour to our venue (we actually did an extra hour so we really needed 2 extra).

Post # 33
2223 posts
Buzzing bee

Nothing. 🙂 

Honestly. Not because it was “perfect” but because we kept to our decisions, put our feet down, eliminated EVERYTHING that would have been or was an unncessary stressor that no one (even us) would even notice and would simply cost $ and emotional energy, and we didn’t buy into every “tradition” out there. 

Did we get push-back and some crying from the family? Yeah. But like with children, sometimes you have to say no and stick to it. In the end they didn’t even notice they didn’t get everything they cried about and had an amazing time. 

Post # 34
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

For our destination wedding mostly everything was perfect. The only thing I would have done was included our moms in the ceremony. Even a special walk down the aisle. Just a complete oversight by us.

For our AHR reception I would have hired a different DJ. He wasn’t terrible but not as good as I was looking for either. Would have had our photobooth for longer and changed my hairstyle.

Post # 35
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would have stressed EVEN MORE to my photographer how important pictures of our kids were.  

I wouldn’t have let my daughter spend the day before the wedding in the pool for 6 hours, because she ended up with cholorine burn on her eyes that made her miserable for pictures.

I would have spent more money on a better hair/make-up person. 

Post # 36
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012


-I would have had a 6 hour reception (party was gonig too strong when we had to leave)

-I would have spent more on a photographer (spent 3k- would have spent just under 5k)

-skipped family pictures- no one gave half a shit about them (including myself, groom, and family involved) spent like half hour doing them

-spent more time alone with new husband taking pictures

Post # 37
80 posts
Worker bee

1.) Invited more people! I had to cut some of my friends and co-workers from the list to make room for (very) extended family members who didn’t come anyway. Some of them even RSVP’d yes and then never showed up (grr). I wish I would have been organized enough to send out timely “b-list” invitations as I got regrets in the mail. I really regret not inviting some of those people to make room for no-shows! 


2.) While I was pretty calm on my wedding day, I was a freaked-out mess the day before my wedding, on the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner day. I didn’t enjoy my rehearsal dinner AT ALL because I was just so nervous and internally freaking out and wondering if my husband’s family liked my family (no reason to think they didn’t, just general irrational freaking out), panicking that something would go wrong, that I would forget something, that a vendor wouldn’t show. None of that happened and I really wish I would have sat back and enjoyed the rehearsal dinner.


3.) I would have picked more comfortable shoes! The shoes I chose were gorgeous and expensive, and since I paid a lot for them I refused to admit that I’d probably made a mistake choosing something so uncomfortable. I still would have worn heels, but more comfortable ones than I wore are easy enough to come by! My feet were DYING by the end of the ceremony and I kicked them off as soon as possible at the reception. 



Post # 38
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The only thing I would change was my shoes. I had these cute sparkly shoes that went great with my dress….and they killed my feet! I was barefoot after about 20 minutes of dancing.

Post # 39
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would have told my photog ‘no up angles’ and careful of FIs flat head 🙂 however we did get plenty of good photos but my double chin and fat ass makes me cringe.

I would have drank less champagne

I would have had a hair trial

I would have chosen a bridesmaid with half a clue about weddings

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