(Closed) If you could go back to the planning stage…

posted 12 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would invite family first and friends last; thatw ay no hidden added guests grrrrr

Post # 33
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My best advice is to pick a good photographer!  I’ve read so many photography horror stories on here and feel really fortunate that we’re not one of them.  It took a little while, but I was able to convince my husband to go with a little more expensive photographer, and it really made a difference.  They were incredible to work with (both before and after the wedding) and in general I feel like they’re really awesome people.  Plus, they have talent like none other, quality work, and (only 2.5 weeks after the wedding) our photos are ready! 

P.S.  Any of you Reno/Tahoe bridea and grooms should definitely check out http://www.zinserphoto.com.  They are amazing! 

Post # 34
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

1.  Spent way too much on invitations.  I originally wanted to do them myself, but ran out of time so I ordered some beautiful ones over the internet.  I was happy with them, only I ordered way too many and now I have a box sitting at home with lots of leftover invites.  I forgot to think about how one invite goes to a household of 2-4 on average, silly me.

 2.  We tried to keep our guest list to 75 people (we really wanted less that that, but the venue had a 75 person minimum) so we only sent out invites to about 90-100 people.  I wish we had sent out 150 because so many people couldn’t make it or flaked and we had to send out last-minute invites.  My parents ended up inviting more of their friends to fill the seats, and I wish I had invited more of mine.

 3. Wish I had lost weight.  I exercised and watched what I ate, but didn’t diet.  I think with the stress I put on some more pounds and now I have photos of myself as a fat bride!  Oh well, at least we look very happy, and I can always lose that weight.  

4.  Oh yeah, and like so many others said, I wish I had spent more time dress shopping.  I got tired of trying on dresses too, and settled with what they had in the 2nd shop we went to.  It’s a very beautiful dress, but more expensive than I wanted.  I should have researched it more before going out shopping. 

–I wish we hadn’t used that bridal shop for our tux rentals because they were terribly disorganized there and got all the guys’ orders/measurements wrong and stressed everybody out at the last minute.  Have the guys go to a tried-and-true place, like Men’s Wearhouse or something like that.

 Everything that worked out fantastically was due to listening to friends/family advice (such as hiring a hairdresser/makeup person for the wedding day), and using the venue’s list of recommended vendors.  Everything went well & hassle free on the day of the wedding!

Best of luck to you!! 


Post # 35
403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@West Coast Bride:  I really appreciate your comment about personalizing your wedding. I’m trying to come up with more ways to personalize mine, for the exact reason you mentioned: so the wedding is “a real celebration of our relationship.” 🙂

Post # 36
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Have a shorter engagement and dole out small inconsequential tasks to people who REALLLLLLLY want to be involved and take a few deep breaths when they do whatever they do, it’s a small piece of the day and while it may not be what you want, at least it’s not something super important like the venue or your dress or your vows.

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