(Closed) If you could hold off your wedding until after ours, that would be fantastic.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have been thinking the same thing and I also have so many baby showers to go too in the next year already there must be something in the water…

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yikes! Yes, 2012 is the year of weddings. I wonder if it’s because people don’t want to get married in 2013 due to superstition (I’ll admit, I preferred 2012 over 2013 because of that!) One of my BMs has 5 weddings to go to next year, and the other has 6 to go to including her own, mine, and 2 other friends where she is BM/MOH. I have two to go to before mine (as of yet), and I defintely tried to make sure I was a couple months behind Bridesmaid or Best Man so as not to stress her out on her big day. Let’s not get stressed and try to enjoy the other wedding festivities (even though our bank accounts are dwindling!) because I would sure hope others would do the same for my wedding!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You’re not alone. 2011 will have 7 weddings for us. It’s just that time of our lives. Yes, it makes money kinda tight, but I love it!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Is it possible to skip some of these events. 7 weddings is a lot unless you have a lot of bestfriends and relatives getting hitched I say prioritize which weddings you can afford to attend and which you can’t.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Its time to get creative!

Make scrapbooks for showers, stay only for a piece of the bachelorette, and buy something on the registry ahead of time with coupons and discounts etc! then mail when you are ready (or give)

Give bottles of wine with poems etc in a nice package for he 1st three anniversaries, give a token gift and a “redeem card” for a nice dinner at your place. etc.  

really, this is what we did.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

keep it to a $20 budget per wedding for gifts.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it’s so common. You hit a certain age and everyone starts getting married. I have been in 27 weddings in the last 5 years and 11 of them were in 2009. 

You’ll manage, but the money side is stinky.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wow! And I thought the 5 I went to this year was a lot! I know that attending weddings and all the activities surrounding them can be rough money-wise but maybe you can think of it as a way to do research while you are having fun? I learned so much about what I do and do not want to do by attending weddings while planning my own. Good luck! 🙂

Post # 11
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Newbee

I just hope all the brides remember this feeling and respond with as much understanding when it is your guests who are concerned about about how inconvenient your wedding timing is among the many others, how little they need to spend on your wedding present, etc…

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Wow! 7 is a lot! I have one to go to the end of this year, and then I am a bridesmaid in one in April and I thought that was stressful enough! but you have a lot on your plate! I hope you do not get stressed out and be able to get through the financial position you are in. good luck! 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

(the title of this post makes me laugh…)

It’s like, there was a huge wave of people who got married right out of college, (those who married people they had met in college but were waiting to graduate,) but now I’m in (and maybe you are too) the clump of people who graduated, then did some other cool stuff with their life, during which time they met a wonderful person and are now settling down!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@MsPanda: Oh my gosh there seriously is something in the water or whatever – I currently know (like close contact – good friends, co-workers, family, etc.) seventeen women who are pregnant. These kids are going to have a ton of friends!

OP: weddings (and babies) definitely come in waves – I’m sorry your big wedding wave is during an already financially-strapped time. Just think of it as plenty of opportunities for research and get even more excited for your upcoming wedding.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@lefeymw:Very good idea.

@danicalifornia:Also a good idea. 

You can pick a few weddings to go to.I cant imagine going to 7 in one year. I barely make it to 1 in five years.

Either way. Good luck. Have fun and remember u dont have to spend a fortune on a gift for each wedding.Set yourself a limit and stick to it.

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