(Closed) if you could only pick one, bachelorette party or bridal shower?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I guess shower?  Because celebrating with my family means more to me than with my friends (I am just closer with my family than with my friends).  Also, I’m not really a big partier, so the traditional bach party doesn’t appeal to me.

I was fortunate to have both! 😀

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Bachelorette for sure!  I had no interest whatsoever in a shower.  I find them awkward and stuffy.  My Bach was a weekend of eating and drinking wine in Napa with three close friends.  It was perfect!

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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socalgirl1689:  bridal shower. you get to invite both your family and friends. bachelorettes are just for friends. a bachelorette IMO is basically a girls night out, which is the same as going out any other night for a birthday or celebration.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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socalgirl1689:  bachelorette party! I’d rather party with my best friends than have an awkward bridal shower.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I didn’t want any gifts for my wedding, so bachelorette for sure. Showers are boring. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

Bachelorette.  Showers are nice, but I find them kind of outdated.  My aunt insisted on a “shower”, and I told her as long as there was no mention of gifts and it was immediate family only, we could do it.  It was more of a family BBQ, which I really enjoyed.  I don’t like being fussed over with gifts.

I had my bach last night and it was just a night out on the town cocktailing and getting dressed up.  Bachelorettes don’t have to be penis cakes and clubbing (my girlfriend who kindly threw the party kept this in mind and had a wonderful evening for me with 6 of my close girlfriends and some champagne!).

Post # 37
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Honey Beekeeper

It would depend. I wouldn’t want any part of a clubbing, stripper type of evening, and I wouldn’t even want to call it a bachelorette, but if my friends planned  a girl’s night out or a low key weekend, that would be just as nice as at any other time of the year. I’d pick that over a shower since it would be about friendship not about gifts.

Post # 38
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Bridal shower! It’s a multi-generational female love fest. My bachelorette was absolute magic too though…

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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carolinabelle:  To be honest, he really doesn’t care about either. However, I think if asked in this fashion, he would give the same response I did. Five years ago, we very well may have had different answers, but our lives are different now and partying just doesn’t go above home obligations (which would benefit from a shower). 

I’m sure those who choose the party might think its greedy to choose the shower. Call me greedy. The reality is that we could really benefit from the shower in the long run. 

Post # 40
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Newbee

I’d choose shower– I think it’s a nice time to connect with the women of your own family as well as get to know your future female in-laws.   Bachelorette is nice, but those are the ladies you already have very close relationships with and would spend quality time with regardless.

Post # 41
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would choose a bridal shower, hands down. It was lovely spending time celebrating with wonderful people who are special to me.

I personally am not a fan of alcohol or clubbing.

Post # 42
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Helper bee

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peridot456:  I’d rather eat glass than sit through a bridal shower.

 

Ditto. The only thing I hate worse than bridal showers is baby showers.

Bachelorette all the way. 

Having said that, my bridal shower was actually very cool. It was a total surprise, too. I never would have agreed to a traditional bridal shower so my sister invited me to meet her for lunch at a nice, upscale restaurant. A bunch of friends and family were there, some of whom flew in from out of town (!) and they surprised me. We had martinis  and I got a ton of presents from Anthropologie and Crate & Barrel. No silly games. It was my kind of bridal shower!

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Definitely bachelorette.  It doesn’t have to be wild (and I’d prefer it not be!).  Showers are mind-numblingly boring for evveryone involved.  I don’t need presents.  I would much rather just go have fun – maybe some wine and laughs – with my friends.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee

Bridal Shower – I feel it is more inclusive of everyone and i’m not one for going out clubbing/getting drunk which most Bachelotette parties are centred around.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

bridal shower. Mine was lovely. My bachelorette party (bar hopping and dinner) was a snoozefest – it was such a quiet weekend in the city.

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