Post # 1
Before a few years ago, I had only ever been to one wedding, and that was when I was a clingy six year old bridesmaid (you know, when people ONLY had little girl bridesmaids) who had no idea what was going on at this fancy celebration, would cry if I couldn’t see my mother and could barely speak English.
So up till a few years ago, I had no idea how the itinerary of a typical wedding looked. It’s at that point that I wish I’d have just thought something up from scratch, because now that I know how it all goes, I struggle to think of it being any other way! But…
…when trying to desperately think of creative ways to change it, I did come up with a few ideas. One of them is having the speeches and tear-jerking videos etc before the ceremony, so that everyone is kind of hyped up and emotional for the couple and it all reaches its climax with the actual ceremony and vows. Does that make sense?
Have any of you thought of ways to rehash the traditional wedding itinerary?
Post # 3
I have never thought about this exactly, besides cutting out bouqet toss, garter toss….
I really like your idea, like have a little cocktail hour with toasts and stuff, then ceremony, then reception….really cool
Post # 4
The biggest change from the norm that I’m doing is having the bridal party pictures BEFORE the ceremony, so that the guests don’t have to wait around between the ceremony and the reception, which are at the same venue. This also saves a lot of money on a cocktail hour, where hors d’eourves are expensive as all get out!
Post # 5
The standard wedding itinerary in the UK is rather different from that in the USA. It typically goes something like this:
Ceremony (either at reception venue or elsewhere) – usually sometime between 11am and 4pm
Drinks reception, whilst bridal party pictures are taken – about 1.5-2.5 hours
Wedding breakfast – Seated meal of 2-4 courses (sometimes even five)
Evening guests arrive – Sometime between 7 and 8:30pm
Dancing part 1 – Usually a ceilidh in Scotland, but generally a band or DJ
Evening buffet – Another meal, because we’re piggies
Dancing part 2
(The cake cutting either happens before the meal or after the evening guests arrive.)
The only change we made was to add another drinks reception as the evening guests arrived. I was perfectly happy with that.
I do have friends who had an evening only wedding, which was lovely, but it’s still quite unusual here.
Post # 6
I like that idea! We did a first look and all the pictures before the ceremony. After the ceremony, we did about 45 minutes more of pictures (while the guests had a cocktail hour). Then we joined the cocktail hour for a bit, had our receiving line, and went into the reception. During the reception, we did speeches first, then food (buffet-style), cut the cake, and then did our dances.
At most weddings I’ve been to, the bride and groom cut the cake as soon as they walk into the reception venue. We did ours later because we wanted our guests to be able to look at our awesome cake! (It was placed in between the buffet tables.)
One thing you might consider is that people show up late. Some people might miss your video and speeches…but then again, if you did it the traditional way, they’d miss your ceremony, so it’s kind of a toss-up!
Post # 7
I think the only things we’re ‘shaking up’ is no speehes from the bridal party (unless they want to but my MOH’s don’t speak Spanish so the speech would lost on half the guests). No parent dances for the groom and bride (we will dance with our kids instead).
As for typical weddings done here, we’re doing a few things differently as well. It’s not the norm to have so many bridesmaids.
Post # 8
@BridetoBeJilly: That’s a good idea. It would be nice for the bride and groom to be right there with the guests after the post-ceremony celebratory drinks, right?
Post # 9
Start with champagne for all!
Ceremony in 20 minutes or under.
Followed by champagne and appetizers for all!
Dancing… and champagne for all!
Post # 10
@Jezika: Honestly most formal wedding things bore/annoy me so we’re eloping and cutting everything except the necessary bits 😛
I don’t like sap and all the speeches and toasts and self written vows and stuff.. bleh. Especially in front of other people I’d feel soo awkward. Maybe I’m in the minority but I never dreamed of a big wedding!
Post # 11
Definitely pictures before the ceremony. I HATE waiting for the bride and groom so that we can eat. We went to my FI’s cousin’s wedding and not only was there a 3-hour gap between the end of the ceremony and reception (not a Catholic gap), we had to wait over an hour for them after the reception started because they were still off taking pictures. When they FINALLY got there, it was another almost 30 minutes before they came inside because they were taking MORE pictures outside of the venue.