(Closed) If you could start the planning all over would you?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you change your wedding plans if you could?
    Yes - I'd make it sooner and smaller : (17 votes)
    28 %
    No - I'd keep everything the same : (29 votes)
    48 %
    Somewhat - I'd change a few things but the date and size would stay the same : (15 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    471 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would change everything and elope. I haven’t had my wedding yet though, I may change my mind and be happy I did it the way I did 🙂

    Post # 4
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    6249 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    We actually just talked about this the other day.  We both agreed that we are having our dream wedding so we wouldn’t change anything. This is after a 22-month engagement, so our planning was spread out.  When things got too tedious we had the luxury of taking a planning break and doing non-wedding things.  So that probably helped a lot.

    Post # 5
    Member
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    FI and I actually talked about this last night. Our wedding is on Saturday, and it’s the kind of wedding we wanted to avoid from the get go. We wanted something super small and simple….and quick! But due to pressure from family about inviting this family member, and that family friend, etc etc, it’s not the wedding we want. We started by wanting just a 20 person, intimate wedding, to being pressured into a 65 person wedding with….a second reception elsewhere at a later date with 200 people! We should have stood up for and been firm in what we want from the beginning.

    Post # 6
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    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would keep the date, we had a 6 month engagement and LOVED it but I would have a destination wedding instead of the one planned here.  The size did not bother me we had about 60 people.  I know not all of them would have made a DW but the ones that would have come to the destination wedding are some of the ones I wpuld not want there 🙁

    Post # 7
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    2699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’d keep everything the same but I’d love to have had a rainbow themed wedding with lots of bright colours – not the ivory and green that FI chose :/

    Post # 8
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    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    No- we’re having exactly a 6-month engagement, and I’m SO ready for it to be done!

    Post # 9
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    3802 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Nope, I would have kept everything the same.

    Post # 10
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    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We had/have an eight month engagement and also wanted something relatively small and casual- we ended up with a 100 person reception/boozy brunch. I wanted to straddle the line of what my parents/family wanted and what we wanted, not so huge, more casual, etc. I think the planning is going well, but it still costs A LOT of money. I honestly sometimes feel like I’m hemorrging money! I hear you on the diet and excercise plan. I definitely went through highs and lows with my plan and discipline. Cut yourself some slack, tell yourself its okay if you are not 100% on track and always keep in mind your “why”- the point of why you are doing all of it!

    Post # 11
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    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m really happy with the way the wedding is shaping up, but it really isn’t my ‘dream’ wedding.  I have always wanted to get married on a beach, and FI and I actually talked about just eloping with just the two of us.  But each time we talked about that route, we circle back around to the fact that our families would be disappointed and sad they wouldn’t witness our wedding.

    With that being said, I’m very pleased with the date and plans we have.  I just wish we could have done it this May because I’m ready to be married. 

    Post # 12
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    588 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would have had it this fall or winter rather then next summer. I’m actually dreading having an end of July wedding because it may be horribly hot out! I’m sure I’ll love it and enjoy it but we didn’t need the 19months of waiting and we both agreed a fall/winter wedding would have been nice!

    Post # 14
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    3302 posts
    Sugar bee

    No. I would keep it the same. The only thing I would change is delaying in asking my attendants  to be attendants and asked them in a cute cheesy way that I see other brides doing.

    I booted one BM very early in the planning and I think another is on the way out the door this weekend after we talk. I had a 19 month engagement and the extra time to plan, save money and research was great. It does suck though to see other brides getting married first and makes me a little anxious for our turn.

    Post # 15
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    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We tried to have an 80 person wedding with a low key vibe, and I didn’t manage my mom, stepmom, and grandma enough and ended up inviting 220. If I could start over, I’d apologize profusely to FMIL after we eloped.

    Post # 16
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    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    If I had to do it all over again, I’d go bigger!  🙂

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