(Closed) If you could, would you elope?

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would. I wanted to, but Darling Husband wasn’t willing. He said we needed a wedding for family and friends, and he was right — but only for his side. My side would have been fine with us telling them we married after the fact. So, we compromised and had a super-small, super-fun wedding.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

yes yes and YES!! i was just thinking to myself the other day – not enough attention is given to the benefits of eloping! the notion of being disowned if you elope is no longer valid – it kills a multi billion dollar industry but the stress of family etc that comes about when you’re half way through planning – is it really worth it?

Post # 5
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale

Even though our day was supergreatandfantastic. Yes.

Post # 6
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

we eloped and are thrilled by the results!  friends and family our age have been saying “wished we did that” or “wish we could” or “thats what we are going to do”.  the older ones are fine as we had a big family party last week and invited about 150 people over our house for a catered function with lots of staff so they are now happy that they got to sit, eat and nag with everyone in the family

his mother said “i never got to see my 1st son marry”, but she was thrilled we had a big party so she got to save face with the rellies.

 

Post # 7
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1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re eloping and so far, so good. We’re happy, but then again, we haven’t told any family yet!

Post # 8
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

No way.  I think I would cry if I had to elope. I love my friends and family so much.  We are so so so excited to bless our family and friends by having a huge party to celebrate our new life together!  We are expecting 250 to our wedding. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

oh, and in addition to my above post. hubbys cousin is marrying an canadian girl next year and they are planning on eloping to Fiji, they told us that because its no longer a shock to the greek side of the family that they are going to do it with a party afterwards as well.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Definitely not. Although I was never the girl who always dreamed about her wedding, I love the idea of having all of my family/friends witness our marriage and celebrate with us. There are some days where I think “UGH F all of this” but in the end, I know I will be extremely happy with our decision to have a fairly big wedding. Plus, I’m a total attention whore lol.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Definitely wouldn’t elope. I’m looking forward to a chance to have this time with all our family and friends. Our theory is that we’re throwing a party for the people in our lives that got us to this point — this place where we’re able to be together and be good for each other. We want to feel and give all the love we can!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

It’s tempting… but I wouldn’t trade the big wedding. Having all the people together in one place was really awesome. It wasn’t even necessarily the wedding, but since so much of our family came from really far, a lot of people stayed anywhere from a week to a month in town, so we got to spend a lot of time with a lot of people we don’t see for years! In that sense, the big wedding was worth it!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yes! The wedding was beautiful. amazing, fun, emotional. All that good stuff. And I don’t want to say I regret it, because I don’t. BUT if at the outset I had known how much time, effort, tears, stress, MONEY it was all going to be. We would have eloped! No question.

When a friend gets engaged I always have to remind myself no to rain on her parade by saying “JUST ELOPE!”

Post # 14
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521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

There were definitely downsides to the wedding, but once I was surrounded by my friends and family as I made my vows… no.  On the other hand, my sister has been informed that certain family members shouldn’t know of her hypothetical engagement (she’s not even dating now) until the invitations go out!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I wanted to, but fi wanted the huge party. he thinks weddings are to be celebrated with all of your friends and family. we comprimised with a small wedding, which is still too big for me. i’ll just be happy when it’s all over with!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Hell no!  Not after all of this planning!

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