(Closed) If you could, would you elope?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 47
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Eastside Catholic Chapel and Lake Union Cafe

Yes.  I think I probably should have.

Post # 48
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

No…I want my fairy tale! However, my FH is being awfully supportive and helpful, so that makes a world of difference.

Post # 49
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As crazy as the planning was I wouldn’t elope.  The only thing I would probably do instead would be to have a destination wedding instead.

Post # 50
5876 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I do think it sounds terribly romantic.  Especially eloping in some exotic country.  But how would that really work anyway – I doubt they’d just give you a marriage license in (insert exotic country here).

The thing that makes me think that weddings are worth the hassle is brining all the people you love into one room and feeling just bathed in their love and well wishes all at the same time.  That sounds pretty special.

Post # 51
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Ralston Hall Mansion

I don’t know that I’d elope. But a destination wedding is sounding really good right now!

Post # 52
354 posts
Helper bee

I think we’ll likely get the best of both worlds…  a civil ceremony at City Hall (or very small wedding at the temple) with parents and siblings only on a weekday.  We’ll plan throw a reception with extended family and good friends that weekend, but that’s a jmore a large fancy party.   To me, this is a good compromise between intimacy and celebration.  We met later in life (I’m mid-30s, he is mid-40s) and we live in the same large metro area where we grew up so if you count childhood friends, college, grad school, work friends, parents’ close friends (practically extended family in my case), it was just getting overwhelming.   He wanted something small and personal, I wanted to celebrate with those are part of my life — this way we both get what we want.

Post # 53
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

YES. There are many of times that I wanted to quite the planning and just elope but I was just too far in. If I had a family that wasn’t so close I would have done it or if I had planned it again I probably would have eloped and saved the money for a house.

BUT…My wedding is in 4 days and I know I will have such a great time with my family and friends. I am so looking forward to it.

Post # 54
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We were trying to elope in Vegas–well we told people–but we thought only my mom and his parents were going to be present but it turns out like 20 or so of our friends and family are following us to Vegas. You mention Vegas around people and they go, “I want to to come!” You think they’re just saying that but then they all buy plane tickets.

It was amazingly awesome though to just pay the chapel $500 and they will provide everything, you just have to show up. The rush you in, marry you, and shoo you out, which is perfect to me. Get ‘er done and then par-tay!!

Post # 55
2889 posts
Sugar bee


We briefly thought of doing it secretly and not telling anyone but, to me and for my wedding, I didn’t see it as real unless we are married by a priest. My family would also have not been pleased since I am the only girl of the grand children, my aunts are quite excited to have a wedding. Also, it is most likely the only time our families and friends will be together so we are super excited to have all of our favorite pwople in one place for once.

A colleague of mine eloped on a private beach and hired an amazing photographer. They went on a honeymoon and then sent the photos to their families and friends. They celebrated the marriage with a small party a month or so later but she didn’t regret it at all. From what I saw it was a great idea for them and the pictures were amazing. She still carried a boquet and wore a white dress it was just more simple. And their honeymoon looked like it was perfect.

Post # 56
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Right now – with the guest lists, “did we invite too many people” or not enough of “my” people arguments – I WOULD ELOPE TOMORROW IF HE WOULD. Every time I ask though he says no because he knows that I want the big wedding and he would regret taking that away from me.

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