(Closed) If you did online RSVPs, I have a question for you

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1949 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we did email rsvps, so I didn’t even have a form. we didn’t have an uninvited guests show up. I put specifically on my invites “adult ceremony and reception”. That got the point across. And most of those with kids had to come in from out of town, so they made their own arrangments.

Post # 4
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I will run into this problem in a couple months.  I am thinking to very specifically say on their RSVP card (more like instruction) how many seats I have reserved for them and maybe list the people who are invited to the reception. 

So hopefully no crazy drama when RSVP.  I guess if they end up RSVP for more people, we will have to talk to them directly. 

Post # 6
6 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MadameTussaud:  We did online RSVPs, and yes, we had a couple of people try to add guests. Most of them actually asked… “is it cool if I bring someone?” but I had one friend just RSVP +1 which was annoying to me. It’s not a player to be named later situation!

Anywho… after that I added a FAQ to our site and addressed the “Can I bring someone” by saying no, sorry, we worked hard to create a intimate reception with our closest friends and family; etc. Another good thing about the online RSVP is that (at least how we did it) when you get the email alert of an RSVP and see where someone is adding a guest, you can easily reply right back and have the difficult conversation (via email). 🙂

Hope that helps!

Post # 7
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are using online RSVP through our Project Wedding website. When we set up the guest list and it went live (you have to type your name to show you and your family, it’s not there for the world to see) it gave us the option of allowing people to bring more people than what was listed for their family–we unchecked that option. For our guests who we were allowing to bring an unnamed +1 we listed it as

Mr/Mrs/Dr A Jones

Mr./Mrs/Dr A Joneses Guest

Then they were supposed to email/Facebook/text us the name of their guest.

This of course, as all changed, but it was the system we worked out.

Post # 8
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our RSVP cards said:

___ Seats have been reserved in your honor.

Please Rsvp using our website:



Enter your name as it Appears below:

(first, last)

Kindly respond by


Then I neatly hand-wrote the number of seats, name, etc. In theory, this could be printed in with your home computer, but your stationary mighT be too rigid, as mine was.

The thing I would change is “your name” to your party’s name, since the head of some household’s couldn’t come, so the rest of their party got confused antrekked to enter another name. The good thing though is that The Knot will let imperfect responses go through, letting you figure it out later. Also, the knot lets you (the bride) enter the names of the additional party members Or you can give them generic names like “guest.” 

We used Minted.com for our suite, the they custom-made my RSVP cards to my specifications and with the text and font scheme I wanted, used the design of our invitation and basically modified an unmatching destination enclosure card (which had the dimensions needed for our info) to match our stuff. No extra cost. 

The online RSVP card is easy to do and still looks really nice. 🙂

Post # 10
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I used wedding wire, and didnt have any problems with people trying to add plus ones. That is because on the invites I put specifically how many seats were reserved for the person, so i guess that got he point accross. 


It is not a big deal, if they want a plus one, and cant do it online, then they will call you.

Post # 11
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MadameTussaud:  We’re using weddingwire, too. We haven’t run into any problems (yet, our deadline is next weekend), but I did forget to enter my cousin’s wife’s name and I felt TERRIBLE about it! Oops! Hopefully he just thought that he was RSVPing for them both when he saw his name.

Post # 12
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

We used The Knot’s wedding website and RSVP page. I only had one person email me asking to bring some random person. I think it helps that it pulls up your RSVP and lists the family members individually so you can check and uncheck who will attend. It also makes it clear who’s invited, I think.

Post # 13
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I used wedding wire and didn’t have that issue at all

Post # 15
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

we did online RSVP through wedding wire and there is no way to add an extra person. It worked great

Post # 16
25 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

we are doing online RSVP through weddingwire and so far guests have just sent us an email if they are going to have a plus one! ( we put our email on the website) 

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