(Closed) If you didn't pay crazy $$ for your venue, please tell us how!

posted 8 years ago in Venue
Post # 63
2521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We are paying under 80 a head with open bar, a huge space, and no room fee.  I think first look for a venue with a food minimum and no fee.  Even if you have to shell out a bit more than you would like at least you are getting food upgrades on it.  Look into more offbeat venues.  We picked a restaurant.  We get the whole top floor, it is gorgeous, we can still dance and do all the typical wedding things, and the food is unbelievable. 

Post # 64
3723 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@chillinchillin:  What county or city in NYS? Upstate is waaaaaaaay vague.

Post # 65
2156 posts
Buzzing bee

@chillinchillin:  Ours is cheap because we have to bring everything in ourselves except tables and chairs

Post # 66
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We were going to have to pay $700 for the chapel we chose For June 21, 2014, the day after my parents’ anniversary.  Weeeellllll…. They told us we had the date. a few days later, they called apologizing, saying the only day they had booked in June was that date and the other bride was unwilling to switch.  So they gave us the following weekend for free.  Couldn’t say no, even for sentimental reasons.  

Our reception will be at a restaurant that is closed in the afternoons.  So we will have the whole place to ourselves and just pay for food.  Which is an amazing deal!

Post # 67
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@chillinchillin:  Our wedding is on a Saturday in July.  Our venue does not have a different price for Fridays/Sundays or for the winter months.

Their prices are unbelievably reasonable for this area, considering what is included. 

We’re having a 5 hour reception including a cocktail hour.  There are butler served apps (10 total I think?), 3 stations (pasta, mediterranean/cheese, and an attended chinese station), and a 3 course meal which includes an appetizer, salad, and entree, as well as bread & butter.  Our venue includes the cake, as well as a bunch of other desserts (choc covered strawberries and pastries served with the cake, some other dessert served at the tables, and then three or four butler served desserts).  Our price also includes a full 5-hour premium open bar. 

In this area, I am shocked that we got the price we did — but I think it’s because our venue is actually a restaurant (we have a private cocktail hour and then the majority of the restaurant shuts down for the night since we’re there).  We got a great price, but we had to compromise on some things.  We are getting fabulous food, and a lot of it, but the outside appearance of the venue isn’t exceptional.  It is a restaurant and there are no “grounds.”  It’s not an estate, or a city, and there is no view.  But it’s beautiful inside and the price was right!

Post # 69
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Our wedding venue was CRAZY affordable for the area we are in. It was $27 a person (adult) and $10.50 per child. We had a 130 person wedding and it cost $~4000. That also included our ceremony site too. 

Dinner included all you can eat family style soup, salad, pasta, chicken, french fries, green beans, ice cream and coffee. They also cut the cake for free.

i was beyond happy with my venue, it also meant something to me as it was the same place my parents had their reception 32 years prior.

it’s no where near upstate new york though, sorry, it’s south eastern mass 

Post # 70
5062 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

We’re getting married at a hotel & having the reception at the same venue out of season. 

Post # 71
3336 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

We chose the most off-peak season and day of the week we could.  A Monday in April.  It was half the price of a Saturday in May!

Post # 72
2 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m sure this was mentioned already, but historic mansions owned by cities are a great way to save money. We are getting married at the Commander’s Mansion in Watertown, MA in November, which will come out to a little under $4,000 for an eight hour rental (without a tent).

Post # 73
141 posts
Blushing bee

My answer might not be completely helpful because I do not live in New York! I am actually from Pennsylvania but I am getting married in Virginia. I’ll outline my steps…

1. I decided on a general theme/feel for my wedding (rustic-ish shabby chic vintage) and I thought about what I knew I wanted my venue to have (a barn and a field with a view of mountains.)

2. I knew I did not want to get married in my home-town because I live near the Amish and it generally smells like cow-poop year-round…so, I widened my search to places I knew had fields and mountains and thus started looking in Tennesee, North Carolina, and Virginia. (i focused on the South because I have family in North Carolina)

3. I searched online (using rusticbride.com) for venues in each of those states. I fell in love with a venue in North Carolina…but realized it was out of my price range after I called to get their pricing (they started at 4,000). Tennesee lost out because most venues were kind of hokey-tourist type little white chapels. So Virginia won.

5. It took a while, but I finally found my venue! Diamond V Farm in Blue Ridge, Va. It was important to me that I could have the venue for more than just a few hours. I wanted it for basically the whole weekend. And since Diamond V, at the time, was a brand new venue, I booked my wedding weekend for 1,600. It is a really great deal, except I do have to piece together all of my vendors since my venue is juuust the site of the wedding. They do not do the flowers or the cake or anything like that.

So, my advice would be to think outside the box. Maybe consider searching outside of your immediate area, and, if you are a creative person, be willing to look at venues that aren’t necessarily all-inclusive. You can save money that way because you have control over costs on things like the cake or rentals. And I would also suggest looking for a newer venue or something that is not so caught up in the wedding-mill, a venue that is there because they love making couples’ dreams come true…not to make money.


Post # 74
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We paid just over $100/person.  This includes cocktail hour passed hors d’ourves, 2 signature drinks, open bar, all linens, stemwear, cutlery, set up, take down, salad course, pasta course, main, dessert, late night passed foods, sweet table, 4 late night food stations (crepes, cannoli, taco, poutine, that kind of thing, we haven’t picked them yet), cake cutting and DJ…

Its still expensive, but I feel like we got a pretty great rate.  We got a discount on our ceremony price because its off season, but that was seperate from the reception stuff.  We also just had our food tasting and the food was delicious!  They’ve assured us that the food served on our wedding day is cooked the same way and the same portion sizes will be given.  I’m super excited about it!

Post # 75
1780 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@chillinchillin:  We got off fairly cheap we got 2 venus for $1300 for both…..our church was a package deal for $500, that includes pastor, and day of coordinator….

our reception hall cost $800 for the whole building for the whole day plus basically the whole day the day before the wedding including a security gaurd (their policy anytime you do a bar) and a reception coordinator….its in an opera house/theater….which is really popular for receptions but since we are doing our wedding in the fall and in the small town just outside of the city where i work…..it helped keep it just a little cheaper…..

soo i think we did pretty good!

Post # 76
589 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

We are having our ceremony and reception in the same building, Scottish Rite Cathedral. The ceremony upstairs in the lobby and reception downstairs in the ballroom (no pictures of that but it’s hard wood with chandeliers). We’re paying $43/person which includes both room rentals, appetizers for the cocktail hour and then full dinner and cake cutting/plating, bartender, taxes and gratuity. So I feel like we made out pretty well!

Outside of the building:


Empty lobby where we’ll have the ceremony:

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