- 11 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Then why the hell say anything at all!?
Okay, I’m pretty peeved with my sister-in-law right now (my brother’s wife).
This is the woman who has so many issues between herself and my parents that she nearly had my brother convinced not to come to the wedding – and said that even if he went, she and her son (DH and my godson) would NOT be attending.
Anyway, she DID end up coming, and so did my nephew. We had a great time with them, after I had to basically strong-arm them into coming to the family sunset cruise the night before the wedding, as well as our wedding-eve family dinner.
I’d like to preface this next part of the post by saying I LOVE OUR PHOTOGRAPHERS. They were professional, wonderful, and we are absolutely thrilled with how our photos came out. So many of our guests approached us afterward to say how wonderful they were and how they were a pleasure to meet and were really a part of our day, and did a great job of capturing every little moment without being obtrusive. Seriously, if you’re in the NH/MA/CT/ME/VT area… check out http://www.littlefangphoto.com.
So on our wedding day, at the reception, my SIL said to me that she did NOT appreciate our photographers screwing up her photos by being “in the way” the whole time. She went on to tell me that our photographers were unprofessional because they got right up front for our ceremony to get “the shots” – saying that any REAL photographer has a good enough zoom lens that they should be able to get those shots without “ruining” everyone else’s photos.
I pretty much ignored her on the day of, letting her know that we TOLD our photographers to do whatever they had to do to get “the shots” – that we didn’t want them to fade in the background, but rather, we’d like the awesome photos that we were paying for. She insisted that if they were any good, that they would have been able to get those without even being noticed.
She also continued to say that SHE was SO lucky to have a professional photographer as a friend who did their photos for free and didn’t ruin anyone else’s time at their wedding, and that she couldn’t BELIEVE we’d “pay a fortune” for two photographers who did little more than get in the way. That we should have just asked HER to do our photos, she would have done them for a bottle of wine and they would have been just lovely!
I told her that we were happy with our photographers, and that we loved working with them, and that we couldn’t wait to see the final product. She left it at that, sensing (how perceptive of her) that I was annoyed.
So fast forward a month and a half – we got our photos,
and are pretty much head over heels in love with how they came out.
I posted the above albums to facebook of the professional photos so that I could share them with family and friends.
Last night, I get a message on my wall from SIL… “Finally had a proper look at your wedding photos. They came out nice, I guess. I’m not keen on the editing your photographer did, but at least YOU look nice.”
Then she commented on some photos – “Wish your photographer would have left this one in color instead of black and white, but it came out okay I guess…”
My photographer is my Facebook Friend and can see these comments, but even if she wasn’t a facebook friend, I just don’t think it’s called for at all to comment negatively (or backhanded compliments) on someone’s wedding photos?
I mean, everyone is free to have their own thoughts, and if she truly doesn’t like how my photos came out, she could tell my brother that, or keep the comment to herself – why tell the bride? What purpose does it serve to tell me that you don’t like my photos?