Post # 1
this is my first post by the way! my boyfriend, well my fiance just propsed today in a beautiful way in front of our parents and it made it very special for me since i am so family oriented. i am ESCATIC but i have a little problem to rant about.
a close friend of mine does not seem to be too happy that i am engaged at the age of 20.he feels that i should wait a few years .. i know i am young and so is my fiance, but we are not rushing. we plan on being engaged at least 14 months and also i will be finishing school within 3 months of us getting married. we have our goals individually that we want to meet as well as goals we have as being a couple. i dont understand how someone can be so stuck in what they expect of thier lives to say something about what i am doing with mine. if you don’t see yourself getting married young, that is fine but im going with my heart on this one.
i just wanted to know if anyone had someone close to them who tried to push their insight on you and your plans. and to give some support to any other girls in the same boat as me! stay inspired by your own love and don’t let someone else be the rain on your parade!
Post # 3
This is a really, really, really common sentiment that you will likely encounter over and over during your engagement. I know it’s frustrating, but you need to find a way to let it roll without blowing up about it every time. Summon your mature side and let it go!
Post # 4
What she said. If you react badly you just add fuel to their fire that you are not mature enough to get married.
Post # 5
@breeeonaaa: just wanted to know if anyone had someone close to them who tried to push their insight on you and your plans.
Close, not-so-close, perfect strangers… anyone really, lol. DH and I got engaged at 18 and were married 4 months before I graduated from college. (3 year engagement!) Along the way we heard opinions from pretty much anyone. Welcome to the stage in your life when everyone feels that their input is needed/wanted/valued. It doesn’t stop from here. Engagement, wedding, marriage, children… it goes on and on. But it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. As long as you are happy and confident in your plans you’ll get through all of the “you’re too young” comments. Take a deep breath and let the comments go.
Congrats on your engagement! 🙂
Post # 6
@crayfish @j_jaye @Mrs.Enne no i completely understand how to let it go and i have. i guess i just didnt expect it from someone so close but hey, either be happy for me or don’t, but im still going on with my life. thank you!
Post # 7
I got sick of hearing it so I came up with this response- IF we are going to grow old together- why not grow up together!
I think people who say yoemu are to young are often jealous that you will have that someone for so long – when it took or is taking them so long?
not always true but often.
Also just know whats right for them isn’t whats right for you and when they say that your to young what they are projecting is that If it was them it would be to young- they don’t know how to seperate them selfs from that.
Post # 8
Girl, people will ALWAYS have an opinion with your wedding, get used to it!!…I assume this isn’t your first time here on the ‘Bee. 😉 I would come up with a witty come back that you can always say to these people like ‘well, I guess I was just one of the lucky ones that found her soulmate early’ or something to that effect. And then remind them that you didn’t ask for their advice if they keep going. So rude.