(Closed) If you don't live with your S/O, why not?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Why don't you live with your S/O?
    LDR : (34 votes)
    21 %
    Relationship too new : (6 votes)
    4 %
    Religious reasons : (41 votes)
    25 %
    Other personal reasons : (35 votes)
    21 %
    Family pressure : (19 votes)
    12 %
    Bad previous experience : (3 votes)
    2 %
    I'm single : (0 votes)
    I like to vote : (19 votes)
    12 %
    Not LD but logistically impossible : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    529 posts
    Busy bee

    We don’t live together because we both have kids and we wanted to be really sure before we made big changes in their lives. 

    Post # 18
    Member
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Stupid LDR. Otherwise we’d definitely have a little place together now. Although I guess I live with him a couple months out of the year when I visit, but nothing permanent until we get married and get visas sorted out.

    Post # 19
    Member
    646 posts
    Busy bee

    @worldtraveler:  SO and I have only been together a year and a half. His lease is up next Oct then we will be making the move. So not only was the timing just not right, but finances also prohibited him not renewing his lease this Oct. Its ok though, another year to save money!!

    Post # 20
    Member
    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am not living with my fiance because I want something to be “new” after we get married.  I am so excited to move in with him, and I am just enjoying the wait so that I can appreciate cohabitating after we are married!

    Post # 21
    Member
    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @worldtraveler:  I didn’t move in with my SO until he was my Fiance. Part personal, part family pressure.

    Post # 22
    Member
    1133 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    99% financial reasons and 1% other reason (not engaged/married yet). 

    We are both living at home still, although we are still pretty young anyways (I’m going to be 24 in 3 weeks, he is 21).  We are also both back in school full time.  Our parents are great and allow us to live at home, rent free still.  We both have steady jobs, but definitely do not make enough to allow us to live together at the moment. 

    My other reason (it has nothing to do with religion as I am not religious) but I just am not on board with renting.  I feel like it’s such a waste of money (of course if it can be avoided).  I can’t justify spending $800 a month on rent when I could put that towards a mortgage.  Once we graduate (both in April 2014 so 1.5 years) and hopefully get a good job, I want to buy a condo.  However, I also want to be at least engaged before I take that step, because I would never want to own property with someone who I am not engaged/married to. 

    Post # 23
    Member
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Very LDR. Sigh…

    Post # 24
    Member
    2109 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We’re in a long distance relationship (boooo), but even if we lived in the same city, we wouldn’t live together until we were married. We’re both in college, and I like the idea of having our college roommate experiences now. (Boy have we both had some doozies..) 

    Plus I like the idea of waiting till we’re married to live together, and our families would have a fit if we didn’t wait. (Although I live in a weirdly set up house- it’s a fairly open/connected duplex with an apartment behind the garage- and my dad always tells SO if he wen’t to my school (my dad’s alma mater), he could live in the apartment.)

    Anywho, it doesn’t matter anyways… like I said. LDR… 🙁

    Post # 25
    Member
    8482 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Neither of us has a house yet. He does live part time with me at my moms though (not that he will admit to that.)

    Post # 26
    Member
    90 posts
    Worker bee

    Not moving in with any man unless we’re married for religious reasons. That goes for SO too, much as I’d love to.

    Post # 27
    Member
    328 posts
    Helper bee

    Both of us are too poor to be able to afford to move out. 🙁

    Post # 28
    Member
    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We did live together for a year, but we had a very very rough patch. We broke up briefly and started over, pretty much. We agreed then that I would keep my own place until we get engaged, because both of our lives, but especially mine, have been turned upside down in the last year and I don’t want to make any big decisions for the next six months or so. At that point I’ll consider it, but it’ll probably be in a year’s time when we get engaged. We spend most of our time in his place, but I like having my little pied a terre – like today, I’m hugely PMS so I am better to just be on my own or I’ll start a row!

     

    Post # 29
    Member
    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I put “other personal reasons” – we live in NYC where it is very expensive aka he can’t just get out of his lease, he has to get out of his current apartment first and I have a roommate right now (I own my place). We will be moving in together early next year!

    Post # 30
    Member
    2417 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    SO lives with his parents and I have my own place. He stays with me a few times a week but we are waiting for him to move in until we are engaged. His mom doesn’t like the idea of us living together before we are engaged and we are trying to be respectful of that.

    Post # 31
    Member
    438 posts
    Helper bee

    The reason my SO and i dont live togthether is financial, I think we my SO might move into my house with me and my folks when we get engaged until we can get onto the property ladder, its a good thing i have an ensuit bathroom so its kinda like renting a room haha so I think it could work, my sisters bf already lives with uss and that works great. Thing is i need to seriously start clearing out my bedroom I have so much stuff it will take a year to sort thru it all haha!

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