(Closed) If you don’t want to be a bridesmaid, just say NO!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I 1000% agree with you.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m with you girlfriend!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with you to a point.  Some brides are really demanding though, and sometimes I think the brides are way out of line. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just an observation: The brides who asked, and had the person say no, also  complain and “bitch” too.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Legallyblondiebride:  I guess I would have to know more specifics to agree or disagree with you. 

Overall, those demands seem pretty reasonable, but I have seen brides on here with “reasonable” demands of their BMs that I think are crazy (“You agreed to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man and now you’re complaining about spending $5000 to go to Vegas for my bachelorette or spending $300 on a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress?? Like, ZOMG!”). 

It is frustrating when people don’t seem to want to be involved though when they are special to you.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think people just like to complain. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I researched my dress cost prior to asking my BMs so I told them everything they would have to pay for upfront and gave them a chance to really know what they were agreeing to do. I dont think its fair when people ask someone to be their Bridesmaid or Best Man and the Bridesmaid or Best Man blinding accepts and then realizes later that the dress, shoes, hair, makeup and everything will be way more than she can afford

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@Legallyblondiebride:  Not all brides are like you though.  Some are demanding and I feel bad for those BMs.  Good for you for realizing that just because they are bridemaids doesn’t mean they owe you anything.  =)

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I am having the same problem with the groomsmen actually – my ladies are fine! One of the groomsmen thought it was funny to ask me what he was supposed to check off on the RSVP card because he wanted to “accept with resignation” instead of “accept with pleasure.” They also keep talking about how the wedding is going to be a shitshow and how drunk they are going to get. Not things you say to a bride. It’s very stressful.

 

No advice, just wanted you to know I feel your pain! I know weddings are never important to other people as they are to the bride and groom, but people should show some respect when they are in a wedding party and not go out of their way to complain about it to the bride or to people that may let it get back to the bride.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@bells:  I actually do agree with this.  A few years ago one of my best friends asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and I excitedly accepted however she didn’t tell me she was only looking at designer dresses and shoes.  I ended up with at $550 ugly Amsale dress I could never wear again and shoes that I could barely walk down the aisle in.  Had she told me her expectations ahead of time, I might have just offered to do a reading instead.  It wasn’t about the ugly dress and painful shoes, but about the costs.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Legallyblondiebride:  No you are not being bridezilla at all.  You haven’t requested anything unreasonable.

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