(Closed) If you get a BFP will you tell right away or wait?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ok, TOTAL sidebar/threadjack for a moment…but, I’m new to the TTC boards, and I don’t have the FOGGIEST idea what any of the abbreviations mean lol, so please forgive me if I’m responding to the total wrong idea.  That being said, I am getting the jist above that you’re afraid to tell anyone as soon as you get a positive prego test?  Most of my friends only told a few super close family/friends at first, and then made it more public when they hit the end of the first trimester when they thought that it was safe!  My husband and I just started trying last month though, and i can already tell how hard it’s going to be to keep my mouth shut when I get a positive!  πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m going to wait. My mother miscarried 3 times and a friend of mine miscarried last year at 18 weeks…she was very visibly pregnant and it was very devastating for her to have to deal with it, but also know that everyone else knew as well…

I think waiting until the 2nd trimester is my game plan…

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would tell Darling Husband right away and probably our parents too (or at least my mom – there is no way I could not tell her).

I won’t tell the whole world immeadiately, but in the event we do miscarriage, having our parents in the loop so that we can have their support would be beneficial.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A lot of people wait until they hit the second trimester, when the risk of MC decreases significantly. I told my parents and immediate family (siblings) right away because I knew if I had an MC, I’d really need the support from them.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I told everyone right away, but my family is super fertile and out of all the generations, I’ve never heard of anyone having a miscarriage. I think everyone I know knew before I was six weeks, haha.

Post # 11
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

Since we’ll be doing IVF, our parents will know – so I’d tell them of course. But everyone else would have to wait.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I miscarried my first pregnancy, and the only people I had told (besides DH) were my mother and my BFF SIL…the two people who’s support I would want if I did miscarry. With our second pregnancy, I told them, then DH’s family (parents and siblings) at 7.5 wks, my dad and stepmom at 8wks, and no one else until 13wks. 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Obviously Darling Husband would know pretty much as soon as I do (or soon after) but I think the only other person I’d tell is my mom. If something were to happen, I’d want her support. I wouldn’t tell my IL’s right away since my Mother-In-Law is incapable of keeping a secret.

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