(Closed) (If you get offended by non-traditional don’t read) – Would you do this song??

posted 9 years ago in Music
Post # 32
6996 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

haha to each his own. i say go for it.

PLEASE tell me you have seen get him to the greek and the Jeffery song?!

When the world slips you a Jeffery, Stroke the furry wall,


Post # 33
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I think it really depends on your guests and how they’ll receive it.

Post # 34
1545 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We wanted our first dance to be “Let me buy you a drink” by T=Pain because it was the first song we danced too at a club LOL We might do a traditonal one and than bust out with this song!

Post # 36
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@kate9854: My thoughts exactly.

I wouldn’t use it for the first dance. That’s when people are paying attention/listening to lyrics. I’m not easily offended, but since I would never have remembered that song from the movie, I would find it a little distasteful/gross.

I could see using it for your last dance song though. By that time, the easily offended have usually left and those who are still there should get it or at least that it is just the two of you being kooky. Plus if you are having an evening reception with alcohol, people will be much more loosened up by the end of the night and more likely to appreciate the humor. 

It’s a funny thought though, but unless you have a projected video of that section of the movie playing, then I’d skip it or save it for the end of the night. (And what a fun way to wrap up the reception!)

Post # 37
2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Ok…first of all, I tend to be a bit traditional and a stickler for rules…now, with that said, I FREAKIN LOVE THAT IDEA!  My BFF loves that song and I once threatened to slip it into the mix for her reception music.  I so wish I had.  She would have loved every minute of it!

Post # 38
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

You’re going to get the same reactions from your guests as you are on here.  Those who know the song and love the movie will get it and find it amusing, funny.  Those who don’t and catch onto the lyrics might see your wedding as going from elegant to tacky in 60 seconds. 

As for me, I love the song.  I think it’s hysterical and every now and then, Darling Husband will start singing it to let me know he’s in the mood.  I think this would work if you were doing a wedding made up entirely of your friends and people who get it and would appreciate it.  However, with traditional people, this might end up tanking.  

Post # 39
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Just depends on the mood you’re setting and how many traditional guests you have (and how much you care what they think :))

Those that might be offended will probably already be put off balance by silly games at the table and (I’d imagine) other less than traditional parts of the whole event.

Post # 40
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Are you doing it in a church? If so, then I DEFINITELY WOULD NOT have this song.

I can’t speak for your crowd otherwise, though. Maybe I’m more conservative than them– I’m not doing the Moldy Peaches song from Juno just beacuse of the part about the turd, so take this for what it’s worth ๐Ÿ˜€ 

Post # 41
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

loved the movie but would find it immature at a wedding.  Sounds like something a teen bride would do and regret it later.  But, whatever rocks your boat.


Post # 42
3165 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I like the idea of it as a song that you guys dance to later, not right off the bat. I love it and the movie, but it seems juvenile to make that your first dance. There are plenty of sweet-but-not-serious songs out there to dance to, but if that’s what you guys want to do, go for it. I wouldn’t do it just because he thinks I don’t have the balls to though. Meanwhile, I had to go listen to it again and found some funny deleted scenes! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=myvD53GdsNA

Post # 43
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I love 15 year old boy humor too but I think this is a little too much.  My Fiance and I are gross, nasty, tell fart jokes, “that’s what she said” etc, but there’s a time and a place for everything.  Like someone said, you may look back and regret it.  Maybe have your DJ mix it in somehow for part of the song.  Your first dance doesn’t have to cheesy…you can do it in your own quirky way without offending people. 

I get it, it’s funny, but not for me.  Kinda sounds like you already know you’re doing it though! Wink

Post # 44
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well, when the discussion for our first dance song came up my guy suggested “Let’s Get It On” and I gotta say, I am considering it. I haven’t come across another one yet that I like better.

Post # 45
4886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hey, I’m walking down the aisle to Radiohead, so obviously I’m not a ‘traditional’ bride either ๐Ÿ™‚ 

That being said, however, I really dont think you should do this for your first dance – for a couple of reasons: 

First, you *might* regret not going with something slightly more mainstream years from now.  This is obviously still TBD but just like Sarah Jessica Parker wearing a black dress and regretting it years later, you might wish you and hubby had a ‘regular’ish song.

Second, so picture this:  this slowish, somewhat romantic-sounding song comes on for your first dance.  All is well.. until your friends who’ve seen this movie realize what you’re up to and start hysterically laughing (or you two start laughing).  Everyone else, who’s never seen this movie or doesn’t catch it, is going to wonder what the hell is so funny, why everyone else is laughing during a slowish, somewhat romantic-sounding first dance, should they be laughing too?  What would grandma do?  It just seems like an awkward situation for everyone. 

I say keep it, but save it for the very last dance to close the reception… the party animals and friends will still be left, which is a better audience, IMO.

Post # 46
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not a traditional bride, but I would not have done this song.  However, the reason I would not have done this song is because I know my guests, and I know that they would have been offended. 

I think it comes down to how your guests would feel.  Would they find it funny/totally you guys, or would they be offended?  Only you and your Fiance can really decide that. 

As far as the lyrics for a first dance go, I would say people hear them more than you think.  I had a couple of people tell me they loved our first dance song and the line …. almost made them cry, etc. I was surprised that people heard actual lines in the song.  But then again, their sitting there watching you and your Darling Husband slow dance, they are able to really listen to the words.

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