(Closed) If you gift at a baby shower what do you do when the baby arrives?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I never expected anything at all but most people brought a gift when they visited. It was usually an a outfit. Could be because we didn’t know the sex of baby until he was born. 

Post # 3
116 posts
Blushing bee

Unless it was a very close friend I would leave it at that. I think you’ve gifted plenty. If I meet a baby long after they’re born I’ll often get another little outfit but only for close friends.

Post # 4
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I bring a token gift, for mom not baby. flowers and bottle of champagne for mama is my go to – she can open when she’s not breastfeeding or is willing to pump and dump!

Post # 5
603 posts
Busy bee

I would bring food.

Post # 6
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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yorkshirerose :  At least in my circle, you give a baby gift (after baby arrives) or you give a shower gift.  No obligation or expectation to give both.

Post # 7
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I don’t think it’s 100% mandatory to bring a gift in the situation you are describing. However, when in doubt bring flowers 🙂

Post # 8
4066 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

A onesie set, or sleepers.  Something cheap.  Or nothing.  

Post # 9
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Yeah, I would bring mom something for just her! A meal, or gift card to something that delivers. 

Post # 10
391 posts
Helper bee

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knpswp :  we were team green for our last baby too. Its super uncommon here. My delivery nurse had never had another patient before me in like 20 something years who chose to wait. Lots of people who gave gifts at the shower brought girly outfits when visiting post baby. 



Food was always my favorite visiting gift. But really the thing I loved most was those who popped in just to help with my older child and do a load of laundry and tidy up a bit. That was pretty limited to family though. (I had 4th degree tearing and walking or moving of any kind was super painful for a few weeks and SO had to go right back to work after bringing me and baby home next day from hospital) Anything that helped make moms life easier. But a gift certainly wasn’t expected (or even wanted, where the hell am I supposed to put all this stuff) But very thoughtful and appreciated

Post # 11
1189 posts
Bumble bee


I’d bring food or flowers. Maybe text her ahead of time and ask if there’s anything she needs picked up. You don’t need to get another gift.

Post # 12
7991 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


Post # 13
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Woodlawn Cemetery

I’m in the US and I just gift at the baby shower unless it’s a best friend or close relative. If you feel you don’t want to go empty handed you could bring some type of food you have prepared. I know I appreciated it when I was a new mom.

Post # 14
2797 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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yorkshirerose :  I give some postpartum bath herbs or nice nipple ointment for the mom!

Post # 15
159 posts
Blushing bee

Bring something for mom- food, offer to clean/tidy up. Ask if there’s anything in particular she needs picked up.

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