- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Last week I was at my grandmother’s funeral…afterparty? reception? what do you call the meal that people go to after a funeral?….and my (married, adult) cousin-in-law mentioned that her (uninvited) daughter had a dance recital the night of our wedding so they were going to come to the ceremony, but her husband/my cousin will be at both.
<br />In talking to my mom about it, we decided/realized it doesn’t matter if the kid comes to the ceremony (which was worry number one- but she’s 7 and an extremely well-behaved child and if it makes life easier for them, then what do I care? It’s not like we’re paying per head at the ceremony), but now I’m wondering – unless people say something, should we plan on everyone who RSVPs “yes” is attending both events? I mean, that’s what I would naturally assume, but now I’m not sure.
And I’m also really hoping that the rest of my family is intelligent enough to realize their children are not invited to our late night, microbrewery reception (we are doing inner and outer envelopes, so the names of the invited are clearly spelled out, save the dates were addressed to the couple only, and it’s mentioned pretty explicitly on our website, which my cousin mentioned “is so cute!”). Le sigh. Why can’t adults be aware of the general principles of etiquette?