(Closed) If you had the chance..

posted 6 years ago in Career
  • poll: Should we take this job opportunity?
    DO IT! For the 3 years and save all the money : (39 votes)
    54 %
    DO IT! Just for a year : (21 votes)
    29 %
    Don't do it! You see the problems it has caused other relationships! : (9 votes)
    13 %
    Other- Add a comment : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    PERSONALLY, my Fiance and I are very independent people.  I would support him IF he wanted to take the job.  I would not push him into it or give him a hard time if he wanted to do it.  Have you ever done a LDR?  Do you have alot going on in your life right now which would make prolonged absences easier?  Those are some things to think about.

    It does sound like an awesome opportunity!

    Post # 4
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would never force him to take it, but yes I would definitely let him if it was what he wanted. If I’m understanding correctly, instead of working 60-70 hours a week (which are my DH’s hours, so I understand how hard that is), he would work 20 days and get the rest off to come home and be with you? the days away would suck, but in the end he might get to spend more time with you…and that is a lot more money!

    Post # 6
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    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    In a flipping HEARTBEAT!!!  We’d probably do it for just the year, or maybe even the full 3 years.  BUT we would NOT change our life style and spending habits.  It’d just be a giant bonus and savings cushion.

    Post # 7
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @baileyryan12:  what are you worried about? (“tear us apart”)

    I think you need to talk to your Fiance and see what he thinks and tell him what you think – all the opportunities aswell as the worries. Every relationship is different, but I think supporting him in whatever he wants to do is a good start. I hope you can get on the same page!

    Post # 8
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    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We’re also very independent. And our time spent together after work is done is limited. I guess I would rather spend 10 quality days with my Fiance than our 3 or 4 hours after work 5 days a week… I’d take the money.

    Post # 11
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    4109 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I say GO FOR IT !!! For as long as you can stand it. What an amazing opportunity.

    Post # 12
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would do it in a heartbeat.  DH is already out of town for work 4 out of 7 days a week (aka over 17 days a month on average) and it really isn’t a big deal AT ALL.  And having 10 quality days where he has no work to do would be awesome!

    That said, we wouldn’t start living like we were making half a million dollars.  Yes – we’d take a couple nice trips and such but the VAST majority of the money would be banked away to allow us to retire MUCH younger and have even more quality time to spend together.

    Post # 13
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    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    I would recommend doing it for a year, and seeing where you are at. 

    Saying you’ll “get used” to the money isn’t really a fair statement– if course you’ll get used to it, but if you KNOW that it’s permanant, you’ll plan accordingly. 

    I think it’s a great opportunity, and it’s a perfect scenario to set yourselves up for a great life once he’s done with it.  And if it turns into 2 years, or even 3– decide and deal with it then! 

    Post # 14
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    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would, and put everything over the 100k income he’s making now straight in the bank to fatten up the savings account!

    Post # 15
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    YES! I wish I had this chance….

    My Darling Husband doesn’t make close to 500k, but he’s gone a couple of weeks a month on travel and I love it! I love having “me time” and having everything clean and the laudry done when he comes back on Friday.

    Post # 16
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    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Personally, I wouldn’t do it. My philosophy is life is too short and I want to spend as much time as I can with my Fiance – even if it meant making more money. But that is just me. There of plenty of people who have spouses who travel.

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