(Closed) If you had the choice to go back in time, would you marry your husband again?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you marry your husband again if you could go back in time?
    Yes! I would do it all over again! : (138 votes)
    87 %
    No! I would reconsider! : (20 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Yes definitely!!!

    Post # 19
    Member
    1489 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would totally marry him again! In fact, I would have married him sooner, too!  

    I cherish every day we are together, and miss him every day we are apart. 

    Post # 20
    Member
    423 posts
    Helper bee

    I would marry him again, over and over,  every single time. But I think I would probably not have a large, traditional wedding. It was a great day, but pretty expensive, and SO stressful. For me, the day he proposed was so much more special, and we both agree that planning the wedding was one of the hardest parts of our relationship. 

    Post # 21
    Member
    5891 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would marry him again in a heartbeat. In fact, if we win the lottery, I’m having a different theme wedding every year! LOL

    Part of me wishes we met earlier, just so I could have more time with him. (we met at 38/39 and married at 40/41) But I know if we had met at any other time, we would not have made it. He was a drinking alcoholic until a year or two before we met and I was dealing with an illness that was debilitating. We met at the exact right time for both of us. 

    Post # 22
    Member
    4161 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If I could go back in time and remarry my husband, I absolutely would, but I would go back to before I met him, erase the DBs I dated and marry Darling Husband sooner 🙂

    Post # 23
    Member
    2094 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @sara5ann:  My first answer was “No” and that made me sad. But the truth is I didn’t know how INSANE his mom and family are…I truly didn’t. So it’s not HIM…it’s THEM that would make me reconsider. Her claws came out the second the we got engaged. Before that she was sweeter than pie…

     

    So looking back, I just wish I knew. I’m currently in therapy for all of this (as is he b/c they are horrible to us both) and I had mentioned I just wish I knew. But there are so many days I laugh at how perfect he is for me…in ways I don’t even consider until it’s shown to me. And I find him adorable when he’s asleep and times he’s being himself. He’s become my best friend and I’m really grateful.

    So for HIM as a person…I would do it again! But knowing his family…I would pause. I would have liked to have gotten some things straightened out. But oh well…all we have is today!

    xo

    Post # 24
    Member
    1956 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Without a doubt. I married my best friend 🙂

    Post # 25
    Member
    6526 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @sara5ann:  yes. Without hesitation, yes. He is the best thing that ever happened to me

    Post # 26
    Member
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    We’ve been together now for about 6 years. I’m not going to lie: the first year was OK, the second and third year were VERY hard. He had a lot of growing up to do. I’ll say this much: by that point (about 2 – 3 years in), I was out of college but still communicating with a mentor from an internship, trying to maintain some semblance of business contact.

    In retrospect, it should’ve been very obvious to me that this mentor/friend was very interested in me, but I felt so poorly about myself (stemming from my relationship issues then) that I just didn’t see it.

    The last time I saw (or spoke to) that mentor, he finally came out with it: he wanted me to leave my now-husband. He wanted us to go out sometime to a museum by his place, wanted me to spend the weekend with him, etc. He all but said, “Dump him and be with me.” My husband knew about some of the other things this mentor had done and said to me (but always with an air of “I was just joking!” right away — and I was dumb and passive enough not to say anything, or even really believe it), but when I told my husband that story — explaining why I hadn’t talked to that mentor in a while– he really grew up overnight.

    The bullshit ended, and it ended for good. I’ve since overheard him telling friends who staunchly declare, “I’ll never change for anybody!” how his eyes were opened.

    Knowing what I know now — how our marriage has turned out, how happy and secure it is — I’d definitely go back and marry him again. But hopefully, I’d have the gall to walk out and call his bluff earlier. If all I had to do was get another guy to flirt with me, I have the confidence to do that now!

    If I were asked this a few years ago, I would’ve said no. He was in no position to be anyone’s husband.

    As it is now, though, I can’t imagine marrying anyone else. Life is good.

     

     

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