Post # 1
Would you prefer to pick it out before the proposal or let the proposal be a complete surprise and go together to pick the ring out afterwards?
I am only asking this because when I told one of my best friend’s that my SO and I had picked out the ring together for when he proposes, she was dumbfounded. Literally, she looked like she was disgusted with the whole concept…so I thought she reacted that way because she was one of those people that thinks the man should choose the ring….but her response was that if you want to pick out the ring you should do it together, after he proposes (it was also what her parent’s did, so maybe that’s why she couldn’t wrap her head around the idea that I was doing it in reverse)…
It really doesn’t bother me what she thinks, as I have my dream man and dream ring (well soon, hopefully!) plus I don’t want to have to wait months to choose a ring after he proposes when I know everybody will be asking to see it!…but I am curious as to what you all think…
Would you prefer to pick out your e-ring before/after proposal?
Post # 3
We picked mine out together (well, had it custom made, same idea) and he put it on my finger the same evening we picked it up from the jeweller! I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 4
I’d prefer not picking it at all! Maybe I’m old fashioned, but I think the man should choose it and for it to be a surprise!
Post # 5
I think it totally depends on the couple. My SO and I went ring shopping together, and I have a good idea of the type of ring I’m going to get (I told him my favorites, which are all very similar) and I’m fine with that. I know the proposal will be a surprise regardless of wether or not I know what the ring looks like.
Post # 6
I pretty much told him what I wanted and was lucky enough that he listened 🙂 I’m glad I did, because otherwise I think he would have gone a totally different direction!
Post # 7
I’m extremely happy that I didn’t pick out my ring, because what he designed wasn’t what I would have chosen but I absolutely love it! But if he did have me do the choosing, I would still want the surprise proposal. I love surprises and he’s the only one who can manage to surprise me all the time.
Post # 8
I told him things I liked and showed him pictures of the same ring over and over again. He got it custom made before the proposal which was great. I wouldn’t have minded trying on things in the jewelery store though. The only sad part was having the jeweler size it, which took less than a business day because he warned them I was going out of town for a couple months so the rushed the process.
Post # 9
Hmmmm. I’m not a very romantic person, we had been together 6 years, we knew we were going to get married so I didn’t see the point of him asking a question that felt unessecary for us. Fiance originally proposed with shoes. I love shoes. They are my wedding shoes.We had the ring made to my taste after that. A lot of people tell me off for not having, and not wanting a big gesture but I don’t like attention or big romantic speeches. It makes me uncomfortable. Who knows how i’ll survive the wedding.
Fiance says i’m Vulcan.
Post # 10
I said after only because I like the idea of a surprise proposal (which mine was). I had given Darling Husband some guidelines of what I like and he did a phenomenal job. Most importantly I loved being completely shocked!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
We picked my ring out together beforehand, and I wouldn’t change the way we did things.
Post # 12
I only voted after because I would NOT want to wait. Girl that man hasn’t unassed that diamond yet?!! Are you not going insane!!!!!
Post # 13
We went the custom route as well and we picked out the ring before the proposal. My guy didn’t want to spend a single penny on a ring I might hate so he figured it was best if we went together.
Post # 14
I didn’t want to FULLY pick mine out and know exactly what was coming, so we looked and discussed options together and then he made the final decision. We wanted to have that ring right when we got engaged!
Post # 15
I picked my ring after he proposed. Around 7 months after actually.
I didn’t want some big to do, I’m not romantic and if FH has gone alone to pick out a ring I have no idea what I would have ended up with. FH knows nothing about jewelry and he would have had to go alone.
Post # 16
thanks for your responses! I was really just curious to see if anyone else had the same mindset as my friend, and it seems a lot more people do than I realized (you all must be the “patient” bees!)
@blingbling: who said i wasn’t going insane?! I practically “own” the waiting boards with all my damn posts LOL…no but seriously, I had it coming to me because we both agreed it would be best to wait until after the semester is over, which is in less than 2 weeks! I am hoping he does it on/before our cruise which leaves May 27th…one thing is for sure, the world and your brother will know it once he finally asks!!! 😀