(Closed) If you had the option to pick out your e-ring…

posted 10 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you prefer to pick out your engagement ring before/after he proposes?

    After- I want a surprise proposal!!

    Before- I want him to pop that ring right on this bad boy asap :)

  • Post # 32
    36 posts
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Petite_Fraise:  I agree! My fiance asked what types I like but I never picked out the actual ring. I love that he did it all by himself and its perfect! I think I may be old fashioned too! 

    If you want to pick out your ring then I see nothing wrong with that though:)

    Post # 33
    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Ideally, I would rather have the surprise proposal then go pick out a ring afterwards, but practically, I think choosing a ring together before makes more sense. I would be all for waiting if it was a perfect world, and you could run into the closest jeweler and find a ring you love for a great deal. Realistically, if you want to find a really good deal and get exactly what you want (or as close as possible), it will probably take you a while to find it. I wouldn’t want to have to explain why I didn’t have a ring or wait to announce the engagement for months, so option 2 is more logical IMO. 

    Post # 34
    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I helped my Fiance pick out my e-ring. And I’m so glad I did, I love it. I didn’t know when he bought it, picked it up, and I didn’t see the finished product so it was still a surprise and I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

    Post # 35
    3696 posts
    Sugar bee

    I picked out mine beforehand. We decided to get married together, we went ring shopping together.

    Post # 36
    3441 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I designed my ring, but the proposal was a complete surprise. I didn’t know when, where, or how he was going to propose. Just because you know the proposal is coming doesn’t mean you are any less excited, most couples talk marriage before getting.

    I personally wouldn’t want to annouce to everyone I was engaged if I didn’t have a ring. As soon as I got engaged I was so excited and wanted to tell all of my family and friends and they all asked to see the ring, I would hate to explain that I didn’t get one yet.

    Post # 37
    3615 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I told him and picked out the stone I wanted…the setting was a surprise..but he leaned towards what I really wanted (a plain band with a solitare) but he wanted side stones…

    I also knew he was going to propose while we were on vaca because I found the box in his duffle bag 🙁 I wish I didn’t snoop 

    Edit:  He has no idea I found the ring till this day…I’d break his heart!

    Post # 38
    1595 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We talked about it beforehand, but he had the final say in the design.  He proposed with a plain band (that we used as my wedding band) while it was being made, so that he could surprise me.  He did surprise me–I knew the ring wouldn’t be done until the beginning of October, and he proposed September 22.  However, I hated not having the sparkly ring to show off right away!

    Post # 39
    1517 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think after. I don’t really get why if you’re planning together to get engaged, you wouldn’t just be engaged already- you already know. Although I guess it is awkward to say you’re engaged and don’t have a ring (the boat I’m in) because everyone expects it.

    Post # 40
    22 posts
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My fiance called my best friend and inquired about what kind of ring I wanted. I got exactly what I wanted but was completely suprised by the proposal. It was perfect!

    Post # 41
    1546 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    we picked it out together and he proposed on his own

    Post # 43
    7439 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think there a more than just two variables that can happen.

    In our case, my SO and I just were naturally talking about getting married from time to time as our relationship progressed (6+ Years).  It was only recently though while on vacation in one of our most favourite of places (where we saw a Bride & Groom who had married on the Beach)… that the conversation became more a case of WHEN vs WHENEVER.

    After returning home, we did some research and decided that we could return to our beloved vacation spot and marry later this year.  Then we started looking at what we’d need to do to make it happen… License, Officiant, Hotel Reservations, etc.

    Then we started looking at rings… a process that continues.

    My SO then asked my Dad for his blessing.

    In my SO’s mind we are engaged… although there was no OFFICIAL PROPOSAL

    And we have started telling people (lol, he got that ball rolling).

    BUT, I on the otherhand, am a big believer that it is only truly official (sealed) once you have a ring…

    So as not to have happen what occurred with my first marriage / engagement, I am going to ensure this time that once we find a ring, that I make it clear to my SO that he must not just slip it on my finger, but actually has to do something special and propose.  He can figure out where and when.

    From what I’ve read here on WBee, I am not alone in this thought… have read where other gals are “waiting” for the Proposal, knowing full well that their “guy” has the ring.

    So, this time round… I want that moment, as I missed out on it when I was in my early 20s.  It means a lot to me.

    Make sense?


    Post # 44
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

    I’m glad I gave my man some guidance and we went ring shopping.  If he had chosen what he thought I liked I would now have a ring that is my personal most hated style.  Once we went shopping and he saw my hated style on my hand he didn’t like it either! 

    It was still a surprise because I had no idea when he would do it and I still cried my eyes out!!

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