I think there a more than just two variables that can happen.
In our case, my SO and I just were naturally talking about getting married from time to time as our relationship progressed (6+ Years). It was only recently though while on vacation in one of our most favourite of places (where we saw a Bride & Groom who had married on the Beach)… that the conversation became more a case of WHEN vs WHENEVER.
After returning home, we did some research and decided that we could return to our beloved vacation spot and marry later this year. Then we started looking at what we’d need to do to make it happen… License, Officiant, Hotel Reservations, etc.
Then we started looking at rings… a process that continues.
My SO then asked my Dad for his blessing.
In my SO’s mind we are engaged… although there was no OFFICIAL PROPOSAL
And we have started telling people (lol, he got that ball rolling).
BUT, I on the otherhand, am a big believer that it is only truly official (sealed) once you have a ring…
So as not to have happen what occurred with my first marriage / engagement, I am going to ensure this time that once we find a ring, that I make it clear to my SO that he must not just slip it on my finger, but actually has to do something special and propose. He can figure out where and when.
From what I’ve read here on WBee, I am not alone in this thought… have read where other gals are “waiting” for the Proposal, knowing full well that their “guy” has the ring.
So, this time round… I want that moment, as I missed out on it when I was in my early 20s. It means a lot to me.