Post # 1
Or more specifically, if you lived in the rainy pacific NW (where most of our family lives, we live here in HI), and possibly had kids in the picture, when would you want to go to a DW?
SO and I were discussing this recently, and I mentioned that if I were going on a vacation/DW to Hawaii and I lived in the NW, I would probably want to go when I would be escaping the nastier weather of the fall or winter, or even the rainy spring. But he brought up a couple good points to the contrary:
1.) Since so many of our extended family members have children, it might be unfair to expect them to take their kids out of school for a week or whatever it would be for them to come during the school year. Christmas break is not something we want, and spring break is when my birthday falls, and I don’t want a birthdiverssary, KWIM?
and 2.) Here on the north shore, the surf is flat and calm in the summer, as opposed to winter when we get 20+ foot contest swells. The families might have to go all the way to south shore to be able to even get in the water.
So hive, what do you think? As many of you know, I’m still “in waiting,” but since we probably won’t get engaged this summer, we can’t do the wedding next summer, which means if we do summer it would be 2 years away! 🙁 I don’t like the idea of waiting that long, but I’m not sure if I can get away with any other season. Thoughts?
Post # 3
We would probably be most likely to go if it fell over a long weekend in the winter – like Thanksgiving. Less time off work + tropical vacation 🙂
Post # 4
There wasnt an option for what I would have chosen – ANYTIME!
But I guess it migiht be easiest for people to go either during the summer, winter break or during a long holiday weekend that isnt SO important (like Thanksgiving or Christmas)
Post # 5
I think all your points are good. I’d go for summer so most people will be able to stay a few days and not take the kids out of school. I love Seattle in the summer, but I wouldn’t mind taking a trip to Hawaii. Even though it’s rainy and chilly in the winter I’d still feel rushed to get home and get the kids back in school. We always do a family Thanksgiving, and most people do family Christmas, so I wouldn’t have a holiday wedding.
Post # 6
I’d absolutely like to go in the winter. I hate the cold weather so I love getting away for awhile, although coming back is always pretty brutal! Also, you could plan around kids school breaks. I believe most schools have a lil winter recess break in February or March. February would be a nice time to go.
Post # 7
I answered your poll based on what we (a couple of DINKS) would want, but honestly if there are a lot of kids in the picture, you should really try to work around school. It it’s mostly family that you want to be there, then a holiday trip might be nice. If you are hoping for friends to come, I’d chose summer.
Are most of the kids in the same school district? If so, you could actually find out if they have a fall break and plan it then (we were lucky because my nieces in Oklahoma and FI’s nieces in Texas happen to have the same spring break next year–I just looked up their school calendar via google).
Post # 8
I’s say pick summer tentatively, but wait and see because you need to see how many people are going to come and that may change when you want the wedding.
But I’d like to go to Hawaii in the winter!
Post # 9
I would be far happier to go in the winter – I actually pretty much refuse to travel somewhere when the weather where I am will be good (hence us delaying our honeymoon until November when we can at least escape the winter)
Post # 10
Winter, because I would LOVE a break from the coldest place on earth- the frozen midwest.
Post # 11
I’m in Oahu too, so I hear you on all levels. My fam is in MN, so obviously I heart the idea of a wintertime wedding so they can escape bone-numbing weather. But, Xmas break would be a factor for them. Bottom line – one Xmas break spent in HI would be memorable, but for you, your anniversary will always be during the holidays. Do you want that? You know, it gets pretty hot in summer here. Your cake and make-up (and maybe even the comfort of the guests) have to factor the sun somewhat. But all in all, I think that anytime in Hawaii is a good time for a wedding. Guests can find fun in the water – be it in the pool or a quick drive to a coast – from pretty much anywhere. I’d guess that as a guest, the primary reason for the travel would be to celebrate your Day and the paradise we call home would be icing on the cake, so to speak.
Good luck and lots of Aloha!
Post # 12
I’m in the minority, but I vote Spring. I’m homegrown Hawaiian, who’s now lugging out the rat race on the mainland, but I’m racing as a school teacher, so I’m a slave to the school schedule, like your guests with kids. If I’m going to a wedding (like a family member’s or friends’ wedding), I always wish I could go during my spring break. It’s the perfect amount of time to take a nice vacation (10 days) & spring break can vary in time. For example, the school I work at takes its spring break around Easter b/c so many of our school’s families will travel during that time anyway. Next year, Easter falls rather later than usual – April 24th – due to the Christian/Catholic calendar (it’s slightly different if your family is Orthodox Christian), while the following year, it’s on April 8th…that’s a pretty big difference & if your birthday isn’t close to one of those dates, maybe go with that year?
Post # 13
Thanks guys!! Yes, most of the kids are in the Portland OR area, and it looks like the only break they get aside from holidays is spring break in March. :-/ There’s MLK day in January and Presidents day in February, which would be national holidays letting everyone have at least one free day, from both school and work. Parents, how would you feel about kids taking a few days off around that time? Or would planning a vacation too close after Christmas be too much of a stretch, even if there aren’t kids in the picture?
@tigerlily1221: ALOHA!!! And welcome to the Bee!! Yaaay it’s so nice to see some 808 peeps here! 😀 Thanks so much for your advice, you make some really great points! I agree about the holidays not being ideal, and you’re totally right about the summer heat. Although, the wedding will be in Kahuku on the beach where it’s usually pretty breezy. June’s not too bad usually heat-wise right? I feel like it only recently started to get super hot. Hmm then that’s *only* 22 months away! Haha!
@ms.pascua: Aloha to you too! 🙂 Dang, that would be perfect, but I’m pretty sure this school system’s spring break is right in my birthday week, as it has been the last couple years. Am I being weird for not wanting it to fall near my birthday? lol I just don’t know.
Thanks again everyone for voting and for the advice. I know I’m kind of jumping the gun but this has just been on my mind a lot lately, so thanks for humoring me! 🙂