(Closed) If you had too many guests RSVP yes…

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I am running into this I do believe. IF we have more than 100 people we are supposed to have a security guard. We are at 98 yes right now, out of 168 invited. I can’t believe so many have said yes. Seems as if the only no’s came from out of state family.

Post # 5
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If I had this problem, I’d consider looking for a new venue.  Everyone should be comfortable.

There have definitely been threads where brides have had every single guest accept.

Post # 6
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Depends on how close you are with your guests.  If your wedding is not too big and you are worried about the guest count, you can always “casually” check in with your guests to see if they know for sure they won’t come or they are thinking about it.  You might be able to get a feel on how many are thinking to come. 

And another thing is, depends on how determined you like your venue.  If it’s more comfortable to change the venue, then maybe it’s time to pick a different one. 

If you love the venue so much you might have to cut down the invitations.  If there are some people you really should have invited (for example, family members), then you can always send out a card stating you did think of them when you did the invitations, but due to the strict number at the venue, you had to cut down the numbers and was unable to invite them. Still sucks for them but it’s better than not getting invitation card at all, IMO. 



Post # 8
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Last wedding I went to there was space, comfortably, for about 250 and there were 300. It was very, very squishy. I think this is why I am not inviting more than my venue can hold– I really don’t want to have to squish people in or sacrifice the space.

Instead of inviting too many and hoping for declines, why not make a first wave, second wave list? Send out the first wave at the number you want (i.e. 150). If 20 people decline, then choose 20 people from the second wave list to send out invites to.

Post # 9
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Well OP in your case it seems you kind of already have a last resort way of making it work. I don’t really think there’s anything else you can do. You can’t uninvite your guests.

Personally, I would never invite more than my venue could hold, too risky.

Post # 10
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’d be too terrified of the very scenario you described to invite people & expect them to decline. You never know who’ll decide to come!

Post # 11
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would invite only the number of guests that the venue could hold so I would not be scrambling right before my wedding trying to find a place to stick the extra 50 people.

Post # 12
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

if this happens for me we are only renting two of the four ballrooms… if we get more then the 220 max i will be trying to get the other 2 ballroom spaces.. and telling my decorator to double everything… thats scary cuz the the other two rooms will jump the money for the venue another 7 grand, the decorations would be  another 2 grand. and all the centerpiece work i have done…. ummm i might have enough for 40 tables… if i really skimped on the design…. lol… scary thought. hopefully we wont have the problem.. right now our guest list is at 195-200.

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