(Closed) If you hated your ring…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: If you hated your ring, what would you do?
    Tell him, I don't want to be stuck with something I don't like. : (78 votes)
    67 %
    Say nothing, he picked it for me, and that should be all that matters. : (34 votes)
    29 %
    Just stop wearing it, maybe he will take the hint. : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Sell it/exchange it & buy myself something I like. : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8472 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would probably just keep it to myself.  I couldn’t imagine the feeling he’d have if he knew I didn’t like it. 

    So luckily for me, that’s why my husband let me pick mine out.  Wink  He knew how picky I was.

    Post # 4
    Member
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m sorry, I don’t mean to be rude, but… 3 weeks? Really?!?

    Anyway. I’d keep it to myself and learn to love it. The ring is not what really matters anyway.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2893 posts
    Sugar bee

    This is something I don’t understand. A woman is supposed to keep her mouth shut and dislike her ring for every day of the rest of her life and a man can’t be bummed out for a couple days after hearing she doesn’t care for it? Really? I say she tell him. He didn’t know her so it makes sense he wouldn’t know what to get her. That doesn’t make him a bad guy. Just one that didn’t know. I think she should be delicate and gentle about it but I think she should say something.

    Does she not like it because she found out it’s cheap or because she didn’t like the style and finding out the price came later? Because I think that makes a difference.

    Post # 6
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    1994 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I would say something to him about it.  I can’t imagine that he really thought that he’d be picking out something that he knew she would like after only 3wks time.  He was probably looking for something cheap and quick that he thought would look “okay”.  I just don’t feel like there is no way that he could have put any real thought into the actual ring at that point in the relationship, so I’d definitely ask for another one.  

    By no means am I trying to say that they’re not in love or aren’t ready for marriage.  I just think that 3 weeks is not long enough to know how to pick out a rather important and expensive piece of jewelry for someone. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    483 posts
    Helper bee

    If they were together more than 3 weeks then I would say keep it to herself because of bond time and history put into the relationship  but honestly not that much time got put into it so I’m sure her SO felt like they were shooting in the dark and is prob worried she doesn’t like it and is just being nice And everyone makes mistakes especially early in relationships that’s how you learn and grow …. I do hate when I hear people don’t like there ring and fine out they have been together 5 years …but I dunno it’s a stressful situation 

    Post # 9
    Member
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    She should just tell him. She barely knows him at this point, so I doubt she knows how he’ll react.

    Post # 10
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    2893 posts
    Sugar bee

    @roweboat:  Ok. Makes sense. I’d tell him then. Poor guy was doing his best to do the right thing after only knowing her for 3 whole weeks. If he’s genuinely a stand up guy I think he’d be more concerned about making sure she’s happy than his own short term pride from his “shooting in the dark” ering hunt. Hope it works out for her. 🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    483 posts
    Helper bee

    @roweboat:  Then that makes perfect Sence I bet you he probably gets her a great ring she’ll love for there one year anniversary or something … If its been stated that it’s temporary and only a couple months I wouldn’t even worry about it that fact that he wants to be with her instantly is amazing and  beautiful ! Me and my SO knew instantly and we picked my ring 2 months after “officially” dating … It’s purchased and just waiting for him to give it to me … And our one year anniversary is October so I’ve been waiting a while… No rush you have forever right ?? 😉 but waiting is killing me haha but it will be worth it

    Post # 13
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    2893 posts
    Sugar bee

    @roweboat:  That makes the situation even more different. In that case I’d give it a little time (I mean, they’ve only been together for 3 whole weeks) let everything settle and give them a moment to breath. Then if they had sometime I’d just say something. He already said it’s temporary so there’s no reason for her to be delicate and sit him down and make sure he isn’t hurt by anything because HE said he wants to change it. Then when they are free one weekend she can just ask him if they can go shopping for wedding bands and while they’re at it look at erings to match. She’s in the best possible situation when it comes to ppl who don’t like their rings. No sweat at all. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Well seeing as it came from Walmart maybe it is just a place holder until he can get her something else? I don’t mean that snotty I am just dumbfounded over buying an e-ring at Walmart…

    Post # 15
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    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I *like* my ring, but I don’t *love* it–my Fiance knows. We’ve toyed with the idea of upgrading in a few years.

    Post # 16
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    764 posts
    Busy bee

    She can just get what she wants from her next fiancé 

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