Post # 1
bigger diamond but not as good quality, or a smaller diamond that was very good quality?
Now that hubby said we would upgrade my ring this fall, I have been researching like crazy. What I really want is a 1.5-2 (more like 1.5 with our budget) solitaire. I know a great jeweler who only deals with high quality diamonds. I could get a .75 ct from him for about the same amount of money. He says (which I know is true) that it will look better than a bigger stone because of the quality. But…I can’t help but still want the big stone. I wear bigger jewelry all the time and just rather have a bigger stone. My husband also says no way should we pay to get a smaller stone, even if it’s much better quality. I’m not 100% sure what to do. I don’t want a bigger stone to “show off”. It’s just I always wanted that single solitaire ring and the one I currently could wear (my mom’s .3 or smaller) is just so small on my hand. My mom told me that when my dad gave it to her years ago, she couldn’t stand it b/c it was so small (she always wears big rings). I wear it on my right hand sometimes for sentimental reasons but when I tried to wear it on my ring finger when my original e-ring was so tight, I just felt like I was wearing a child’s ring.
Can you just please (if you don’t mind) tell me what you would do. Just want to get some opinions.
I know…I’m totally ring obsessed lately! I just got my anniversary ring re-done (granted it was free b/c the diamonds were from a necklace a client gave my mother) and while I really like it, I know it’s not something I want to wear forever as my upgrade and my husband doesn’t really like it that much anyways.
Post # 3
Before I would’ve said a bigger diamond that was in-between quality. But Fiance picked out a diamond with great quality and its so worth it.
Post # 4
With diamonds, if you want it to sparkle you should go with quality over size.
Do you know the other c’s on each of those diamonds?
Have you looked for lose stones online?
If you want to PM me your budge for a stone I can help you look for larger stones in your budges that still have good color and clarity.
Sites like adiamor.com, bluenile.com, and others allow you to search for lose stones by size, price, color, clarity, shape, etc.
My Fiance sprung for a colorless stone that is internally flawless. I have never seen ANYTHING so sparkly. We looked at bigger diamonds of lower quality when on vacation and they just didn’t catch the light the same way. Some looked cloudy. Others have VISIBLE black marks or chips in them.
ETA: Going through an online retailer you can often get stones cheaper than at a brick and mortar jewelry store since the online retailers don’t have to pay for overhead of owning a storefront. Most of them also accept returns with full refunds so if you get the stone and don’t like it, you can send it back. Or if you get it appraised and it’s not what you thought it would be, you can send it back.
Post # 5
I’m going to say it depends. I don’t think you need a D color internally flawless diamond for it to sparkle but if we’re talking visible flaws on the larger diamond then yes you should go smaller.
Post # 6
you can tell when someone sacrifices on the quality for a bigger ring. some of the c’s aren’t as noticeable, but to go up half a carat you’d have to downgrade a few of them. higher quality rings are so much shinier – it’s true they look bigger!
Post # 7
Definitely smaller but better quality. Maybe you should go in and look at the two stones side by side? I bet if you see a crazy sparkly white .75 ct sitting next to a dull yellowish 1.5 your decision will be a lot easier 🙂
Post # 8
It really makes a huge difference on which “C” is the lower quality. For me, it’s more important that the color is clear (I didn’t want any yellowness) – but as far as clarity, as long as I can’t see a flaw with the naked eye, I could care less that it’s there. My Fiance went to a wholesaler for my 1.12 center stone and we bought the setting from a respected family-owned jeweler. We had my ring appraised for insurance and it appraised at $4,000 more than he paid. The cut and color of my ring are excellent (I don’t have the technical terms with me right now) but the clarity had some imperfections. I can’t see them and I LOVE my ring!
Post # 9
@CorgiTales: I second this. If you can go and look at the stone sitting side by side. The quality difference will most likely be very obvious.
Post # 10
I’m all about quality, even if that means it’s smaller.
Post # 11
I mean, it really depends on what kind of quality you’re talking about. I would prefer a .5ct. D color over 2ct. J/K color..but if it’s difference between D and H, then it would matter less to me, and I would probably prefer something bigger. I agree with @milesbella regarding the clarity as well–if the flaws aren’t visible to me/the naked eye, then I don’t care about them.
Post # 12
Smaller and better quality – but to a point. For me, if the clarity is such that I can’t see any imperfections with the naked eye – awesome, no need to go higher clarity than that. Same goes for color – if I can’t see any color/yellowing with the naked eye – awesome, no need for a colorless diamond or anything.
So for me as long as those Cs are good enough that to the naked eye I can’t see the flaws/color – then I’d go bigger.
Post # 13
Thanks so much everyone.
It is true that a better stone will look “bigger” but I guess I was just thinking of a ring my friend recently got. She went to the same jeweler and got a .5 carat princess that is very good quality but she keeps hearing that it’s “cute” or other comments that are rude (about having a smaller stone) and has been noticing other women’s larger rings. That got me thinking…do I want to spend the same amount of money for a smaller stone, even if it’s better quality and then regret it? Because I also have another friend who has a carat that is not good quality, and yes you notice it’s not, but my friend with the excellent diamond, says she rather have the bigger stone too, like our friend. And, every time I see this friend, I just love how her ring looks…nice size stone, high setting, just what I want.
I don’t want a diamond that has tons of visible inclusions but don’t really care too much about other things. I’ve seen diamonds that are more yellow and I actually really like those. I don’t know.. I know I will have to go and see them in person but wanted to get opinions from other ladies who have recently received their diamond rings, as opposed to me having my ring for so long. 🙂
Post # 14
@pinkstardustdesigns: Just keep in mind there is a difference between a yellow diamond (i.e. fancy colored diamond) and a diamond with yellow tinges (i.e. low on the color scale).
I LOVE yellow/canary diamonds.
Post # 16
I have a triple excellents, 1.2ct, GIA certified rock and I am really happy with it! 🙂
I don’t think I will ever upgrade to a bigger stone b/c every stone is unique and this one means a lot to me…