(Closed) If you invite a co-worker should they invite you back?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Have you already invited them to your wedding?   I would say only invite co-workers with whom you have a social relationship outside of the workplace.  Personally only invite people you do not mind spending the money on without getting anything in return.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I know what you mean about it being a bit wierd but it’s really up to them.  I wouldn’t take it too personally.  I’m sure she is feeling a bit awkward too.

My closest, oldest friend got engaged and I assumed I’d be a bridesmaid, I’m not.  She can’t afford a big bridal party so had to choose between her very closest friends, and we don’t see each other a whole lot.  I was a bit upset but it’s her day, and I still love her.  And when I start planning (I’m a waiting bee) I’ll still ask her to be mine.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Just because you invite someone to your wedding does not mean you should be automatically invited to theirs.

Just like if someone invites you to their wedding, you are not required to invite them to yours.

Do you know anything about this co-worker’s wedding?

How often to you hang out together outside of work?

I only invited coworkers that I regularly saw outside of work (and work happy hours didn’t count).

Post # 7
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375 posts
Helper bee

Reciprocal invitations are expected for dinner parties, not weddings. Especially if you’re in the “wedding zone” with a lot of coworkers, your guest list could explode by the time you add in all those “she invited me so I have to invite her” people, and her list is just the same.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s silly to expect to be invited to someone’s wedding just because they are invited to yours – seriously, you’re a bride, you just had to go through making a guest list so you should be a lot more understanding. It is up to her what size wedding she would like to have.

Post # 9
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

nope… I hate that “rule”

Post # 10
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2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It would be nice if they did but I don’t think they have to.

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