Post # 1
I was wondering what the etiquette was on this…if I invite a co-worker should they reciprocate and invite me to their wedding too? I understand that perhaps they are having a very small wedding…but then I also feel a bit weird, like I thought we were close…but they thought otherwise!
What do you think?
Post # 3
Have you already invited them to your wedding? I would say only invite co-workers with whom you have a social relationship outside of the workplace. Personally only invite people you do not mind spending the money on without getting anything in return.
Post # 4
I know what you mean about it being a bit wierd but it’s really up to them. I wouldn’t take it too personally. I’m sure she is feeling a bit awkward too.
My closest, oldest friend got engaged and I assumed I’d be a bridesmaid, I’m not. She can’t afford a big bridal party so had to choose between her very closest friends, and we don’t see each other a whole lot. I was a bit upset but it’s her day, and I still love her. And when I start planning (I’m a waiting bee) I’ll still ask her to be mine.
Post # 5
Just because you invite someone to your wedding does not mean you should be automatically invited to theirs.
Just like if someone invites you to their wedding, you are not required to invite them to yours.
Do you know anything about this co-worker’s wedding?
How often to you hang out together outside of work?
I only invited coworkers that I regularly saw outside of work (and work happy hours didn’t count).
Post # 6
I am inviting the ones I meet outside work; I am also inviting 2 who are more like mentors. I don’t meed them outside of work, but they have been really good to me. It’s fine if they don’t invite me, just the slight weird feeling is all. But I still want them to share in my big day!
Post # 7
Reciprocal invitations are expected for dinner parties, not weddings. Especially if you’re in the “wedding zone” with a lot of coworkers, your guest list could explode by the time you add in all those “she invited me so I have to invite her” people, and her list is just the same.
Post # 8
It’s silly to expect to be invited to someone’s wedding just because they are invited to yours – seriously, you’re a bride, you just had to go through making a guest list so you should be a lot more understanding. It is up to her what size wedding she would like to have.
Post # 10
It would be nice if they did but I don’t think they have to.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for the input. I never said I *expected* to be invited, I just was wondering if there was protocol. But since there isn’t, no problem – they can come to mine and whether they invite me doesn’t matter.