(Closed) If you kept your Maiden Name… what do you ….

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m not married yet and don’t think I’m going to keep my name, however, my mom never changed hers legally to my dad’s so I have plenty of experience with this.

She goes by her legal name when paying for things with a check, at the DMV, or anything that has anything to do with the “legality” of it. Otherwise, it’s just Mr. and Mrs. Mydadslastname to keep things simple.

EDIT:

One thing to keep in mind if you’re NOT planning on changing your name: It’s a pain in the a$$ when you try to pick your kids early up from school (and related activities) since they have to know you’re actually their mom before they let them go with you. I’ve had a couple of experiences where they actually called my dad to make sure some crazy lady wasn’t kidnapping me! lol

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I haven’t come across this problem yet, but if we have to refer to ourselves as the __ family, then it will be both our names together, hyphenated.

but we’re not having kids, so I’m not terribly worried about any confusion. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not married yet, but planning to keep my name – hadn’t thought too much about this yet. I think we’ll refer to ourselves as the Hyphenated Family. 

When the time comes for kids…I’ll make sure the schools know who the parents are!

Post # 6
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I kept my name and we usually do myfirstname hisfirstname, but i’m also comfortable with mylastname hislastname as an introduction as well. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I haven’t thought about the ______ Family aspect of it, but at this point, I return address envelopes with MyLastName/HisLastName. So in print, it seems like we’d be the MyLastName/HisLastName Family…which might extend into speech? Most of the time, I think we’d be first names, though.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hmm, I’m not sure when this would ever come into our lives on anything more than a hypothetical level, but I suppose we would be the MyLast-HisLast Family.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I assume we’ll just be the mylastname-hislastname family. My son has my last name and if Fiance and I have a baby someday I’m sure they will take his last name because we’ve already had that ‘chat’. In any case someone will be the odd one out with names because of my son having my maiden name.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I hyphenated for purely professional reasons, otherwise I would have taken his last name completely. Say my maiden name was Jane Smith and hubby’s last name is Jones. I am legally Jane Smith-Jones. In the professional arena, I am Jane Smith but everywhere else I am Jane Jones…our children will have the last name Jones.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

We have 3 last names in this house, so we just don’t refer to ourselves that way. Our friends have made a newe name for us combining letters of Mr. LK’s last name and my last name. It’s pretty funny.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SecretBee23: when i was in school and my mom (who went back to her maiden name when my parents got divorced with i was 9, so we didn’t share a last name) had to pick me up for doctor appts and such we would just walk out the door and into the car.  My mom didn’t have to come in to get me or sign me out or whatever.  I’m only 27 so it’s not like this was a long time ago either, boy how things have changed.  

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

Socially, I do hyphenate to avoid confusion. Like, on facebook my name is hyphenated. I have no problem with people just calling me his last name either.

Our kids will just have his name.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@SecretBee23: Surely schools shouldn’t give kids to parents that they don’t know anyway? I can’t see how a name would change that.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

One of my profs named his son hislastname and the daughter herlastname.

Since Darling Husband took my name, no worries for me 🙂  If he had not done that, I would want my kids to take my name, but that’s just me.

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