- 6 years ago
Okay bees. I used to be on the waiting list. I came here often and vented. Life was MISERABLE. I didn’t know what to do. I turned to the hive often and I got lots of advice. Some bees told me to leave my then-boyfriend. Some bees told me to shut my mouth and wait patiently.
Once we were actually engaged I promised myself that I would come here and write a note for all waiting bees. Because I spent the next 5 months kicking myself in the butt for mistakes I made.
So whatever it’s worth here’s my advice.
If you know he’s going to ask (he’s told you he’s going to, he talks about the future often, and you can just “tell” that it’s “coming” some day)…..
Spend your time getting in shape. Eat right, exercise, and do all the things you THINK you’ll do once your engaged. When my now-husband FINALLY proposed, he was ready to get married right away. I only had 5 months to plan my wedding. Boy was I a jackass. I should have gotten in shape while I was waiting!
I should have started researching ceremony ideas. Once we were engaged I decided I wanted a child to read a story during the ceremony. The problem was, I didn’t know WHICH story. Well, that story never got read because 5 months wasn’t long enough to find the perfect story AND a child to memorize it. I didn’t research a lot of wedding ideas because I was afraid I’d jinx it, and figured I’d do all that “in order” once I was engaged. WRONG IDEA.
This next one is TRICKY and I couldn’t follow my own advice, but ladies, I had SUCH regrets later….. I wish I would have stopped poking and prodding him. He said he would ask, and I couldn’t just trust that and WAIT. Every few weeks I’d bring it up again (granted this was HIS fault for taking so long) and at the time, I couldn’t really help it. But once he asked, I felt like a chump. I wish I could have enjoyed my “now” a lot more.
I really didn’t want to “plan” my wedding in case it didn’t happen. So I didn’t do a whole lot while I was waiting. Big mistake. Go ahead and research and get ideas and have a general idea where you want to go with it. But above all, if you want to look great in your dress, start now.
Oh and one last thing. Mr. Bees plan works. But you have to stick to it. Make it be known that you want to be married and you’ll have it no other way. But then, get on with your OWN life and take care of your own self. If he doesn’t come around, cut bait. But he probably WILL come around.