(Closed) If you KNOW he is going to ask… A cautionary tale to all waiting bees

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Elleymae:  Thanks! 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree with this 100% as a married bee, I wish I spent more time focusing on ME in that waiting time, not on him necessarily or the constant waiting period. Waiting does not mean your life has to be on hold for another person. Enjoy this period of life. 

Post # 5
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Newbee

Great post!  Thanks for the reminders.  Very refreshing and true!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Thank you! I always like the advice from the other side of the fence.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I totally agree. There were a couple of months I poked and prodded and I wish I had not. Even the week before he proposed I had a meltdown. In hindsight, I should have been patient because he was so worth it!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ahh! My Darling Husband was the same way. He really thought we’d have a spring wedding if we got engaged in the winter…. WHY are guys so dumb?

Once my Darling Husband had proposed he was ready for everything and disapointed it didn’t come quick enough. He hated being engaged and hated planning. We bought our house in the spring and Darling Husband was sooo upset we couldn’t both move in together (we wanted to live in it as a married couple only) and I just had to tell him that he took too long to propose! haha

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I posted this on another thread earlier, but my Fiance waited until he was ready to have kids before he proposed!  Now he’s not into planning for the wedding at all because he’s completely baby brained.  I have to remind him that we’re getting married really fast (6 months engagement) but then we will still have to wait another 9 months before we get the infant!  I tell him the same thing “You waited too long!”

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m in the same boat as you are, and a lot of this is really good advice I’ve been following: definitely look at planning the ceremony, event, etc., just don’t push him: if he proposed to early, I probably wouldn’t want that anyway, because I want us BOTH to be ready!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Thanks so much for sharing this!

Waiting bees like me need to be reminded from time to time.

Really really appreciated.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I agree with the not poking/prodding.  that said, I don’t think it is universally true or necessary to start planning your wedding before you are engaged.  I did not and I have no regrets in that department because we did it all together as an engaged couple – and we had 11 months which was plenty of time to figure it all out.

getting in shape, eating well….well all those things are important no matter what, so there is no reason not to take care of yourself all of the time!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree to parts of this. I agree about thinking about what you want, but I don’t say go full steam because you can bring on wedding stress before you’re even engaged . Fiance knew I wanted a September wedding, yet he proposed in April. Now we’re having a year and a half engagemen because, honestly, five months wasn’t enough time for us to plan and work on all the DIY projects I have in mind.

I do wish I hadn’t bugged him as much though. The day he proposed, I asked him how much longer he thought it was going to be. Little did I know he had the ring in his pocket the whole time. I wish I had enjoyed us as a couple more, but too late now!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Elleymae:  Thanks for the advice! I want to bookmark this, so I can read it when I’m having one of those “i can’t help it” moments. 🙂

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Elleymae:  Amen to saving money!  Our engagement is just under 6 months and CRAP I’m freaking out with money.  I wish I would have looked into how much my different venues around here cost ahead of time.

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