(Closed) If you live together, how do you deal with ordered gifts?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

That’s a tough one.  Normally, I would just send it to my office or since your parents are coming to your wedding (right) maybe you could reroute it to them and they can bring it with them?  Definitely mail stalk, because you’re right telling him to avoid the mail will only make him look for it!  My Fiance and I have have lived together for 3 years now and it’s typically the honor system too, but also he normally doesn’t care about the mail.  Packages come and he assumes they’re mine (esp as we’re planning the wedding) and he stacks them in the corner by the front door!  Good luck!! 🙂  And what did you get him?!?!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had the same problem, thankfully I had enough "wedding supplies" arriving that he just didn’t notice any difference and placed any packages that arrived in "my office".  Do you know any of your neighbors well enough to ship it to their address and just pick it up at lunch one day?  Could you have it mailed to your office with a signature required so they have to literally find you and hand it to you?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If it’s addressed to me, he usually leaves it alone.  He may ask what I got, but if it’s a gift he’ll wait until I give it to him.  A lot of times our rural fedex guy leaves them in weird places (by the steps, in our deck box out back, in the grill) so sometimes it takes a little seeking to find things anyway.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We usually don’t open mail/packages with each others name on it unless we absolutely know what it is (like a bill or something we ordered together).

Are you able to track the package online?  If so, at least you know exactly when it will come and can try to get home early that day.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

if i think he will intercept i usually send to my parents, they are only 45mins away though.

I think you can possibly arrange that usps/ups/fedex leave at the local office/warehouse and you can go pick it up, check into that option maybe.

Good Luck! 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am a mail stalker, too!  Usually this is no problem, except when we go get the mail together or when we get home at the same time.  I’ve done the "ship it to my mom’s house" thing before.  Or sometimes I ship it to my neighbor’s house because he is never home and I can sneak over to take the package from his front porch.  🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I used to just send it to the house and hope to get the mail first, but what I did last Christmas was send packages to my Future Sister-In-Law and my fiance was none the wiser. It worked out really well (especially since she’s only 15 minutes away). Just ask a friend or family member if you could send a package to their house instead for the special surpise presents.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Eastside Catholic Chapel and Lake Union Cafe

We don’t open anything that isn’t addressed to us.  When I was putting together Mr. Joey’s bike last year, I was worried he’d figure it out if two wheels got delivered to our apartment so I had them delivered to a friend’s house.  Maybe you could do that or have it delivered to your neighbor if you guys are friendly.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I usually tell him that I bought something for myself, however, if its around his BD, I’m sure he knows that its for him, but he still doesn’t open it if he’s the one that signed for it! One time I didn’t tell him that I was expecting something (it was in a fed ex envelope), and when he got home he didn’t even look at the name, he just ripped it open. Needless to say he saw that I had bought him football tickets, then he tried to tape it closed to pretend like he hadn’t already opened it lol!

Your best bet is just tell him your expecting something wedding related, and he won’t think twice about opening it 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We’re lucky enough to have our parents both living close by… but I’d also ask a friend or neighbor (if you have those kind of neighbors). I wonder if you could send it to your nearest Post Office to be held until you pick it up?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

hahaha.. Now I’m definitely intrigued.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I guess it depends on what the return address label says.. if it were something that said BHPHOTO or Dons Sporting Goods or something like that then I’d be afraid he’d figure it out. But if its something inconspicuous from some unknown ebay seller or the like I wouldnt be too worried.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I usually try to ship stuff to either my office or my sister’s house, then get the items from there.  I know that he’s usually the one to get the mail, so he’ll open packages when they come. 

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