(Closed) If you or people you know had success with online dating… what sites are good?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

WannaBeABride:  I met my husband on Plenty of Fish after 4 days. I also went out with a couple other guys from there and they were nice, normal men. It’s not all trash as a PP suggested.

I guess a lot of people don’t realize this, but on POF you can set requirements for your incoming messages, who can message you, and character minimums for messages. I did that and stopped getting the “hey” messages.

Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Another for the Match crowd! I met my Fiance on Match, and his twin sister met her Fiance on Match too! I had tried POF in the past and did have success in a way (dated a guy for a little while, he was a nice guy just not right for me) but I also just was absolutely inundated by creepies who could not take no for an answer. Like a lot of other posters here, I chose Match b/c I figured if a man was willing to pay for the service, he might be a little bit better than on a free site. Fiance was the first guy to message me, but I did chat with a few others before I deleted the profile and they mostly seemed like nice enough guys- just not as great as the one I’m marrying!

Good luck!! 

Post # 48
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Busy bee

I met my SO on PoF. I’d had one very dodgy date from there before I met him; I was the first and only one he met. I was literally in the process of reading how to delete my account when his message came in. On the spur of the moment I sent him my email address and the rest is history! 

Post # 49
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Newbee

 

WannaBeABride:  Online dating is like regular dating, you have some idiots and jerks and you have some smart, kind, attractive guys. I met my fiance on OkCupid.

My profile went into detail about what I was looking for in a man– I mean, I had height, weight, education level, political leanings, racial preferences, everything– and men reacted one of two ways– 1) they got pissed off or 2) they appreciated that I didn’t waste their time because I wrote everything I wanted out there on the table.

Some people wrote me to troll, and some people met the qualifications and wanted to learn more. The trick is tolimit the types of messages you receive!

Limit the age range that you want messaging you!

 

My go-to trick? Go to your settings and make it so they have to minimally have a certain amount of characters in their message– this weeds out the “hey, how are yous”… nobody has time for that. Also, don’t be afraid to message them.

Make sure you answer pretty much every single question on there– I answered the max amount of questions so that my statistical match was as close as possible– my future fiance was a 98% percent match– there has to be something to say for that… but also… I wrote him. Best decision of my life.

LONG STORY SHORT:

 Say what you want in a man right there online, and have your settings where you want them so you can weed out the guys that aren’t to your standards.

 

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper

Tinder. You can’t message unless you both swipe ‘yes’ to each other so it cuts the drossy ‘hey you’ crappy messages. 

I wrote a little bit in my profile and liked the guys who did too and could ‘no’ all the ones with photos of their cars and torsos and just chat to those with nice pics and something interesting to say. I also think being a bit quicker online is better – some messages, phone chat, date, moves things along a lot better and you don’t get stuck exchanging messages with someone who you have no connection with when you meet them in person. 

I also like tinder as although people complain it’s superficial, I actually think it is not, as you can’t specify height for example. I ended up going out on some great dates with guys that I would have never have included in my range on the traditional sites like match where you can specify these things.

Once you get the hang of ruling out the no-goers, I was very surprised about the number of really nice guys with very likeable photos and profiles.   I had to widen the location radar a bit beyond my town, as it’s not exactly a hotbed of eligible men, but once I included a couple of nearby cities there were plenty of great profiles on there.

Btw, I’m marrying a fabulous man next year who I met on tinder. 

Post # 51
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Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t think there’s necessarily a universally  “successful” dating site. It really is hard to predict where you are going to meet a good partner. From what I’ve read on here, match and eharmony have yielded successful matches.

I met Darling Husband on craigslist personals. Craigslist is not going to work for a lot of people, and yet it worked for us. The free cost and free text appealed to both of us! I had a good time wading through the lame posts to get to his adorable, lifechanging email. It’s all just an adventure.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Met my husband on harmony. Found him in less than three months. Site did much better job of picking a man for me than I ever did for myself.

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I met Darling Husband on match.com and DH’s brother and sister both met their spouses on eharmony. I feel like I met better guys on pay sites than the free ones because most guys (at least in the Los Angeles area) are looking for hook-ups on the free ones.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

met my Fiance through friends but we had both been in okcupid before we met and we later discovered he had messaged me way back when!   I didn’t write back because he lives too far and was too old, on paper.  But IRL he was just right 🙂

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I met my Fiance on Match. He was the only person I met from there, and was well worth the 30.00 I paid 🙂

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I met my SO on plenty of fish. I had also signed up for OKCupid and eHarmony. I found that eHarmony had the same type of guys that the free sites did, so I wasn’t a huge fan. I would recommend putting your settings on the free sites as looking for a long term relationship/marriage. Once I did that, it helped to weed out some of the sleezy guys, but not all. My best advice is to talk to lots of people and go on a lot of dates. I was online for 9 months and went on a ton of dates, but waiting to meet my SO was so worth it!

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I met my guy on Tinder! I wasn’t serious, I downloaded it because all my girlfriends have it and it seems to be the in thing to do. Poor excuse, I know, but it’s the truth. I talked to a hell of a lot of guys on there, and he was the first and only person I decided to meet up with. Neither of us thought we would find anything serious and just set out to have some fun. Our first date was a laugh, we sat and drank wine for hours. The attraction was instant. And now we’re so in love 🙂

Post # 58
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Newbee

eHarmony was worthless for me but I have a friend who found the love of her life on that website. Match was where I met my dude. 

 

Ive be had the opinion that most are kind of a crapshoot with the exception of Plenty of Fish. Seems like a hook-up site. 

Post # 59
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Yeah just keep at it, you will have to wade through hundreds of guys that aren’t right to find a few good ones. I also agree with messaging the guys that interest you, instead of just waiting for them to do it. Some of the better catches don’t send a lot of messages out. The ones I had success with including my fiance, either I messaged them or they sent me a message that was a little different (funnier or more sincere). I met a few really nice guys but none of them were just right until I met Fiance.

Post # 60
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

One of our friends met his wife on Match. I was surprised, because I’ll be honest and say that I had a misconception that online dating was somehow strange (silly, I know) or just looking for a hookup. From what they both said, it seemed that a lot of people were more professionals with good jobs who were just not “find a date in a bar” kind of people. I think like anything in life you get what you pay for. If you shell out the money and time to set up the profile, it’s a pretty good chance those you’re meeting are also serious too.

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