(Closed) If you or people you know had success with online dating… what sites are good?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Just did a quick tally, out of interest…How many bees met their SO on each site (might have missed a couple though):

 

Match: 16

POF: 12

OkCupid: 11

eHarmony: 6

Tinder: 4

Other: 2

 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  SithLady.
Post # 62
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2007 - City, State

I met my husband on match… We are now together 9 1/2 years!! I paid for my membership on it and am so glad I did!! 

Post # 63
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I met my fiance’ on eHarmony!! Actually he was the very FIRST person I started talking to and although I had signed up for a year subscription, only needed about 3 hours (yes, he contacted me within hours of signing up!). Never really expected anything to come of online dating, but thought, hey I’ll give it a shot. So glad I did. 

I particularly liked eHarmony because it was relatively anonymous in that people just can’t search for pictures and come across you. You’re actually only provided profiles that “match” your profile, thus avoiding people just trolling for looks. Besides, I think when you go through a paid service, you tend to filter out some of the “crazies” – not that it’s foolproof as I’m sure there are crazy people paying the subscription fees too, but generally the scammers and the trollers don’t – they tend to stick to the free sites. Not that free sites are all bad either…I’ve known people to meet their SO on those too, I just wanted to lessen the chances of drama and thought a paid site better guaranteed that. 

And it did! We met, moved in together within 4 months, we’re engaged within 9 months and after an almost 2 year engagement, we’ll be getting married next September. 

Good luck!

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook

Fiance and I met on OkCupid.  I had also tried EHarmony, Match, and Plenty of Fish with no luck.  I thought EHarmony was the strangest one of all.  I went on 1 date with a man from EH and it was very formal.  He said he wanted to be married within the next 2 years because he was 36 and asked about the state of my ovaries (can’t make this stuff up).  For me it seemed like the people on the paid websites were looking to get serious very quickly.  

I did have to weed through a lot of odd messages and bad dates on OkCupid, but it was worth it in the end.

Post # 65
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Newbee

I’ve tried Match, EH, and OkC. The amount of messages I get on Match that are, “Hey”, “How r u?”, and similar junk messages is about the same as OkC. Actually, I think I got MORE quality messages on OkC. EH was the only service I had zero spam messages from because they do guided communication rather than just sending a message off the bat. 

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My best friend met her boyfriend on OKC or PoF… can’t remember which one. They’ve been together about two years, and living together for a year in October.

I remember when she was on the free sites, she added something into her profile like, “When you message me, tell me your favorite super hero, and why!” just so she could instantly know who was and was not reading her profile. It also opened up conversation instantly – maybe you could try something like that? Favorite movie… food… local dive, something that’s relevant to you.

I met my Fiance online (gaming, though – not on a website), though I tried a few dating websites before we were in a relationship. eHarmony was definitely the most comprehensive and time consuming one, and I enjoyed that only people that were matched with me could contact me, and that there were “ice breakers” to get to know one another better before just blank communication would open up. Match had the benefit of attempting to ascertain how compatible you are with someone like eHarmony, combined with the ability to freely browse profiles. I had a bit of a run-in with their customer service that made me unhappy… but when I talk to people about it, it sounds like my experience was the exception, not the rule. 

Post # 67
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Bumble bee

SithLady:  We can add me to the Match group!

SO was the first guy I messaged and the only one to respond when I joined Match after months of terrible POF dates. His subscription was ending after a year with no luck. I got a few messages in the few weeks before realizing SO was a keeper and there wasn’t much substance to them.

My gf’s and I were talking and find that a woman will likely have a better shot if she’s the one to reach out first. If you find a profile you like, take a chance and start a conversation. If dude can’t keep it going or it gets weird, that can tell you a lot.

 

Post # 68
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Probably a year and a half after being single with no luck at bars, clubs, meet-up groups my friend convinced me to do online dating. I joined HowAboutWe, back then I think I paid $70 for 3 months, turned out to be totally worth it, met my Fiance about 2 months in 🙂 I also think we just got extremely lucky (first blind date/online dating experience for us both). 

The premise of HowAboutWe is that you post a date idea that is facebook newsfeed esq- dates proposed by people in your area pop up and then you private message them. You go on dates based on date ideas you post…or not, I posted how about we go set the monkies free in Central Park? We’ve traveled all over together but still haven’t made it to the Central Park Zoo lol

Post # 70
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I met my Fiance on match but it was after going on plenty of dates that didn’t work out and plenty of emails wnd phone calls with guys. On match There are def some that are just out for fun and nothing serious but I made sure that my profile reflected who I am and what i’m looking for. I didn’t respond to emails that looked generic and when I emailed guys I would ask thought provoking questions or at the least “what is a typical day like for you?” if they can’t answer that then you already know….If I met up with a guy I would meet just at starbucks for a quick coffee then you don’t waste too much time on a real date so you can weed through quicker. Good luck!!

Post # 71
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

WannaBeABride:  By The Way I messaged Fiance first…but he called and he asked me out. And actually we didn’t have a starbucks meeting. First meeting was a dinner date. My car broke down in the afternoon and I actually rented a car to get to the date! Good thing….

Post # 72
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I met my Darling Husband on POF, my dear friend met her now husband on POF, my aunt met her Fiance on POF… however because it’s free you have to weed out the users and the players a little more thoroughly. I’ve tried eharmony but I didn’t like it… took way too long to just communicate with someone online I found. But that’s just me. If you have time why not try a few?

Post # 73
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Helper bee

I have friends who used Match.com and ended up getting married to the guys they met.  Give that one a try!  Good luck!  🙂

Post # 74
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Worker bee

I was on match for a while and met someone there who was a nice guy and we dated briefly.  Then, just for yucks, I hopped on Plenty of Fish (free).  I think at my age (40, at the time), there were fewer people looking for hookups.  I did get lots of “hi” type messages, but I ignored them.  My profile (I am sure) came across as really snotty (please make sure you read this before messaging me, things like that) but it worked!  Engaged now to a fantastic man.

Post # 75
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Helper bee

WannaBeABride:  I met my boyfriend of over 2 years on OkCupid. That website, man. It’s a trip. It took my bf 4 agonizing months to show up and save me from the dating pool hell that is Okcupid. You’ll definitely get more creeps than potential soulmates, but all it takes is one.

Best advice is don’t be afraid to ignore people you know you aren’t interested in. In the beginning I talked to everyone even if there wasnt a physical or intellectual connection because I try to be friendly and nice to everyone, but then when guys I had no interest in started to like me more than friends, I felt really bad for having somewhat led them on.

Be patient. If you’re on it for more than a month, you will start to hate the place, stick it out.

Invest in the premium account and hide all your profile views unless you think a guy is a potential match, then let him see you viewed his profile.

Highly rate cute (nice) guys that rate you highly and sometimes okc will prompt you to message each other (because you both like one another).

If a guy has on sunglasses in all his pictures…there’s probably a reason for it.

Don’t give out your real number. If you really want to text do it through a google voice number or an app called kik.

Answer tons of questions on a ghost account so you can see how they answered the freaky sex questions without necessarily showing the world your answers on your personal profile. I made mine a 45 year old married man with no picture so I wouldn’t get messages from anyone, hahahaha.

Man…now I’m starting to miss how much of a whiz I was at okcupid. I had that website down pat. Feel free to message me if you think of any other questions about okc and I will be glad to help. =)

Good luck with online dating!!!

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