Post # 1
Ocassionally I have come on here to vent about problems in life, like many of you. So, for those of you who remember our past baby mama drama I have a crazy update! Quick recap: Fiance and I are currently in a nasty court battle with his ex and her new husband over custody of their son, my step son. She’s been really petty and has withheld gifts we’ve bought for him, wont let us have proper visits etc.
A couple of days ago Fiance calls his ex to state that we will be in our home town in a few weeks. He was requesting to schedule a time to visit with his son. She replied that she only felt comfortable communicating through email as we are currently going through the courts and promptly hung up.
We then get an email from her stating that she will not allow us to have a visit with her son unless we give her our full flight informtion, itinerary, and trip confirmation numbers for our up coming Destination Wedding. We’re flying out 2 days after the intended visit with the little one. Our entire engagement we’ve requested to bring his son to our Destination Wedding, but she has flat out refused and this is what sparked our custody battle. We resigned to the fact that he would not be able to be a part of our wedding and instead wanted to have a couple days of time with him before we left.
A couple of months ago Fiance asked for the little one’s health care number so that he could add him to his death and extended benefits. The ex demanded that Fiance provide her with his policy number and info to which he refused (that’s our personal information!). Now just a couple days before our court hearing she is implying that we have plans to kidnap the little one and take him out of the country. She’s stating that we’ve illegally made a passport with that health care number that we wouldn’t give her the info on and that we’re planning on taking him 2 days before we fly out without returning him. Is she crazy?? Ya we would have wanted him at our wedding, but we’re not kidnappers! I don’t think she realizes how significant these implications are. She’s bascially calling us criminals to the courts. It’s so ridiculous I’m fuming!!!
We’re waiting to hear back from the lawyer, but I really don’t think she has any right to our trip information. Ya we could tell her the date and time of our departure, but she doesn’t need my confirmation numbers. I’m having nightmares that she is going to call in a bomb threat and ground our flights or take our confirmation info and cancel our trip! She IS that type of person. I don’t have anyone else to get this all out to so thank you to those who have read this or my other posts. I appreciate the support.
Post # 3
What a crazy B! I am sorry you are dealing with such a lunatic.
Post # 4
WoW! She sounds REALLY crazy! Sounds like you guys should win total custody
Post # 5
wow…just wow…some people. Sounds like that woman has some serious issues!
Post # 6
She has NO need for that info.
Post # 7
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry. Hopefully the courts will see through her nonsense and her shenanigans might actually work against her. You sound like you’re going to be a great stepmom, fighting so hard for time with your stepson! In the end he will appreciate your grit, even if you don’t win this battle.
Post # 8
Wow, this woman sounds like my step-mom. Like a PP said, if she keeps it up, her words will backfire and get her into trouble. Just tell the truth to the courts and they should be able to see through all the mess. I hope it all works out for you though, and I’ll keep my fingers crossed that you guys will eventually get custody or at least regular visitation with his son.
Post # 9
Wow I’m sorry.
Hopefully the courts can easily realize that a passport application has nothing to do with health care number. I filled my own out two months ago and it had nothing to do with health care. Is she saying you made a fake passport or that you made a real passport without her consent (this can be easily proven false)?
Post # 10
Good grief!!! I am almost positive she does not have a right to any of that information. However, do whatever your lawyer says until you guys can get before a judge.
I hope you guys get this little one. Sounds like his Mom is a looney-tooney.
Post # 11
Omg I am so sorry. She has nooo need or right to that information! She is being ridiculous!! I hope everything works out for you guys. This must be really hard on the two of you. I cant even imagine. My heart goes out to you, your Fiance and your stepson. The poor child that he has to be in the middle of it as well.
Post # 12
this is the craziest story i’ve heard in a while – from beginning to end.
what a nut! i would not trust her with any personal information – that child deserves a better mother. she is crazy!
i agree with PP – do what the lawyers tell you – thats scary that she is making up stories – i dont understand WHY she is doing this? bananas.
Post # 13
Actually, it’s a good thing that she communicated all of that to you guys via e-mail. Now you have proof to send along to the lawyer. If there is no visitation agreement set, then you guys basically have full shared custody. You shouldn’t have to battle her for every single visitation. Just let her continue to act crazy…it’s only helping your case.
As for giving her your trip info and other personal info. It’s none of her business, so I definitely wouldn’t give it to her. When my daughter is travelling with her father (usually road trips) I do ask him where he is going and when he will have her back….but that’s it. I don’t need itineraries or confirmation numbers…that’s a bit much.
Post # 14
wow, chick is loco. Im sure the court will see this.
Post # 15
My only thought here is that she’s going to call the airlines anonymously and tell them you are some sort of threat…I just see it happening in my head.
Post # 16
A) Yes she’s insane. Those are VERY serious allegations to make and she likely said them knowing that.
B) When Darling Husband and I travel we give our flight and hotel info to my stepson’s mom should she need to get a hold of us in an emergency and need to track us down. I don’t think that’s out of the norm. That being said, she’s not a nutcase and I don’t think she’d call in a bomb threat or anything.
C) That sucks that she won’t let your stepson come to the Destination Wedding. I know for a while we thought my stepson wouldn’t be able to make it to our wedding and Darling Husband was pretty distraught over it 🙁