Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2012 - El Faro Convention center, Aguadilla, Puerto Rico
I’ve been binge reading past threads about how long to wait after marriage to start trying for children but none of them asked any information about age. So now I’m curious as to what the breakout looks like if you add that as a factor in the poll. Just for fun, answermy very “non-scientific” poll of age at time of marrige and how long you waited/will wait to have kids. I’d love to know the reasons for your choice as well if anyone wants to share 🙂 Looking fwd to reading the responses
Post # 2
I got married at 23 almost 24, which is considered VERY young and quite a lot below the average where I am from, and in my social circle. (Toronto, friends and family including ourselves who all have postgraduate degrees). We had already been together 5 years and didn’t see why we should wait. We wanted to share benefits and be each others next of kin, and be taken seriously as a family unit.
We ideally want one child before I am 30, possible 2 if that’s what we decide we want. I am currently 25 and Darling Husband is 27. So, as soon as it becomes economically feasible, we will start trying.
Post # 3
I’m not sure how to vote lol! I got married very soon after turning 24, and I think we’re planning on waiting a minimum of 2 years before TTC, hopefully a maximum of 5. We’ll see how things go with our careers 🙂
Post # 4
Mrs. Boa Constrictor: We got married last December, Darling Husband is/was 28 & I 27. He wanted to have kids right away, lol, I was okay with waiting, BUT I didn’t want to actually TTC because I would stress out if things didn’t happen. All I hoped was to have a baby before 30, which is approaching fast! haha. I turn 28 on MONDAY and we have our first Doctors appointment for our first baby due this coming December! 🙂 It was a total surprise but we’ve been together almost 7 years, and just bought our first home. So we are very excited. And it just happened when it happened, which is good for me. Lol
Post # 5
We are 25 and 28. We are getting married in august and going off the pill after the honeymoon.
There has been some fertility issues in my family so i am nervous that we may have issues. But we are also financially stable and i am in a job with a great maternity package.
Just gotta wait and see how we go
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - hallockville museum farm
I got married at 22 (I’m now 23) but I was dating my husband since I was 16. I always wanted to wait atleast 1 year before having a baby. My husband is the 6th of 13 siblings so I feel like there’s alot of pressure on me to get pregnant sooner than later. Our 1 year anniversary is in less than a month so we’ll see what happens!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
We were 26/30 when we got married and are just now starting TTC just shy of our 3 year anniversary. We made a long distance move just after our one year anniversary so we were waiting to settle into our new city, buy a home, etc. I personally would have started trying a bit sooner, but Darling Husband was really nervous about the whole thing so I was waiting for him to be really ready. 🙂
Post # 8
We were 29/32 when we got married last June. I am currently 16 weeks pregnant 🙂
Post # 9
I was ten days away from turning 23. I want my first around 27\28 but only if its financially viable. We plan to adopt but if it doesn’t work out, we will start trying when I turn 30.
Post # 10
We were 26/29 when we got married and I was also in grad school. I was (and am) very adamant about no kids during grad school! I graduate in June, and we’ll probably wait another year or so- I’d like a year of real work under my belt before I go and get pregnant. We’ll have been married for 2.5 years when we start trying. I knew I wanted to just be married for awhile too…gotta enjoy just being together, and having the freedom to take trips and go on adventures just on a whim!
Post # 11
Not married yet, but when it happens I will be nearly 35 and he will be 36. He wants to start trying right away, ticking biological clock and all. I would be happy to wait but we’ve been together since our mid-20s so I guess it would be about time we got started!
Post # 12
Mrs. Boa Constrictor: I was 29 when we got married, husband was 36. I always knew I didn’t want kids before 30, but I feel very strongly about not having any (biologically) after 35 for a number of reasons. If it came to that, I would rather adopt.
That said, I am 31 now and my dream career is (kind of unexpectedly) taking off. I always thought for sure I would want kids, but the the happier and more stimulated I become, and the better our financial position and lifestyle becomes, the less and less I want to disrupt all that with children. At the moment its completely unappealing. My husband feels exactly the same way. We only want one child, so I still have ~3-4 years to fingure it out.
Post # 13
Married at 26/31. Started TTC at 27/32. It took us 12 months (for no explainable reason) and we are now 12 weeks pregnant and expecting baby #1 in November (28/34).
Post # 14
Well, the poll was easy, since we’ve not started TTC and we’ve been married over three years already 😉
Married at 22/22(I was nearly 23). We are going on being married four years soon, and have no plans for TTC anytime soon.
We’re waiting because we want to be fully financially independent, as in NO debt (house, car, school, etc). Also, we love to travel and are really enjoying our careers and freedom. Someday, we’ll be ready to give that up for a child, but not for several years most likely!
Post # 15
I was 23(he was 21) when we married and 24 when our first was born. I was 26 for our 2nd and 29 for our 3rd. I love being a young mom/parent and Darling Husband and I look forward to being young empty nesters too!