(Closed) Age at time of Marriage & How much time before kids?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Age when you got married; How soon after marriage would you/did you try for kids?
    Younger than 25; Less than 1 yr : (8 votes)
    4 %
    Younger than 25; Between 1-3 years : (25 votes)
    11 %
    Younger than 25; More than 3 years : (20 votes)
    9 %
    25 - 30; Less than 1 yr : (27 votes)
    12 %
    25 - 30; Between 1-3 years : (60 votes)
    28 %
    25 - 30; More than 3 years : (30 votes)
    14 %
    Older than 30; Less than 1 yr : (31 votes)
    14 %
    Older than 30; Between 1-3 years : (15 votes)
    7 %
    Older than 30; More than 3 years : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1368 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I got married at 23 almost 24, which is considered VERY young and quite a lot below the average where I am from, and in my social circle. (Toronto, friends and family including ourselves who all have postgraduate degrees). We had already been together 5 years and didn’t see why we should wait. We wanted to share benefits and be each others next of kin, and be taken seriously as a family unit. 

    We ideally want one child before I am 30, possible 2 if that’s what we decide we want. I am currently 25 and Darling Husband is 27. So, as soon as it becomes economically feasible, we will start trying. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m not sure how to vote lol! I got married very soon after turning 24, and I think we’re planning on waiting a minimum of 2 years before TTC, hopefully a maximum of 5. We’ll see how things go with our careers πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    Member
    943 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Mrs. Boa Constrictor:  We got married last December, Darling Husband is/was 28 & I 27. He wanted to have kids right away, lol, I was okay with waiting, BUT I didn’t want to actually TTC because I would stress out if things didn’t happen. All I hoped was to have a baby before 30, which is approaching fast! haha. I turn 28 on MONDAY and we have our first Doctors appointment for our first baby due this coming December! πŸ™‚ It was a total surprise but we’ve been together almost 7 years, and just bought our first home. So we are very excited. And it just happened when it happened, which is good for me. Lol

    Post # 5
    Member
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We are 25 and 28. We are getting married in august and going off the pill after the honeymoon. 

    There has been some fertility issues in my family so i am nervous that we may have issues. But we are also financially stable and i am in a job with a great maternity package. 

    Just gotta wait and see how we go

    Post # 6
    Member
    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - hallockville museum farm

    I got married at 22 (I’m now 23) but I was dating my husband since I was 16. I always wanted to wait atleast 1 year before having a baby. My husband is the 6th of 13 siblings so I feel like there’s alot of pressure on me to get pregnant sooner than later. Our 1 year anniversary is in less than a month so we’ll see what happens!

    Post # 7
    Bee
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    We were 26/30 when we got married and are just now starting TTC just shy of our 3 year anniversary. We made a long distance move just after our one year anniversary so we were waiting to settle into our new city, buy a home, etc. I personally would have started trying a bit sooner, but Darling Husband was really nervous about the whole thing so I was waiting for him to be really ready. πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
    Member
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We were 29/32 when we got married last June. I am currently 16 weeks pregnant πŸ™‚

    Post # 9
    Member
    3242 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I was ten days away from turning 23. I want my first around 27\28 but only if its financially viable. We plan to adopt but if it doesn’t work out, we will start trying when I turn 30.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We were 26/29 when we got married and I was also in grad school.  I was (and am) very adamant about no kids during grad school!  I graduate in June, and we’ll probably wait another year or so- I’d like a year of real work under my belt before I go and get pregnant.  We’ll have been married for 2.5 years when we start trying.  I knew I wanted to just be married for awhile too…gotta enjoy just being together, and having the freedom to take trips and go on adventures just on a whim!

     

    Post # 11
    Member
    1013 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Not married yet, but when it happens I will be nearly 35 and he will be 36. He wants to start trying right away, ticking biological clock and all. I would be happy to wait but we’ve been together since our mid-20s so I guess it would be about time we got started!

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    1146 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Mrs. Boa Constrictor:  I was 29 when we got married, husband was 36. I always knew I didn’t want kids before 30, but I feel very strongly about not having any (biologically) after 35 for a number of reasons. If it came to that, I would rather adopt.

    That said, I am 31 now and my dream career is (kind of unexpectedly) taking off. I always thought for sure I would want kids, but the the happier and more stimulated I become, and the better our financial position and lifestyle becomes, the less and less I want to disrupt all that with children. At the moment its completely unappealing. My husband feels exactly the same way. We only want one child, so I still have ~3-4 years to fingure it out.

    Post # 13
    Member
    464 posts
    Helper bee

    Married at 26/31. Started TTC at 27/32. It took us 12 months (for no explainable reason) and we are now 12 weeks pregnant and expecting baby #1 in November (28/34). 

    Post # 14
    Member
    3198 posts
    Sugar bee

    Well, the poll was easy, since we’ve not started TTC and we’ve been married over three years already πŸ˜‰

    Married at 22/22(I was nearly 23). We are going on being married four years soon, and have no plans for TTC anytime soon. 

    We’re waiting because we want to be fully financially independent, as in NO debt (house, car, school, etc). Also, we love to travel and are really enjoying our careers and freedom. Someday, we’ll be ready to give that up for a child, but not for several years most likely!

    Post # 15
    Member
    328 posts
    Helper bee

    I was 23(he was 21) when we married and 24 when our first was born. I was 26 for our 2nd and 29 for our 3rd. I love being a young mom/parent and Darling Husband and I look forward to being young empty nesters too!

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  keepitsimple.

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