Post # 1
One of my dear friends asked me to be in her wedding before I got pregnant. She was in my wedding also. The plan was to wait 1 or 2 months to TTC but we got pregnant by suprise. Her wedding will be in Puerto Rico. I know airlines have policies, and I would need a doctor’s note, etc. But specifics aside, would you do it?
I am trying to decide if I should purchase my dress and see what happens or tell her I’m sorry I prefer not to travel so late in my pregnancy. I don’t want to be selfish but I want to be safe.
Post # 3
No. I just see it as inviting too much risk that late in a pregnancy.
Post # 4
I would check with my doctor… I know many airline policies prohibit air travel after a certain week of pregnancy, and that many doctors suggest avoiding travelling long distances late in pregnancy.
Me, I wouldn’t do it. I would be afraid to go into labor in a foreign country. It would also be very uncomfortable to travel that late in pregnancy.
Post # 5
@loveknows: I wouldn’t just because I’m cautious (& nervous)! Most airplane agencies have restrictions on pregnant women flying after 34 weeks (I believe), so I would play it safe & stay home. I’d probably just get her a really good gift. She should understand, IMO.
Post # 6
I would talk to your doctor now and see what s/he thinks about flying with your particular pregnancy.
Hopefully your friend will understand if you have to back out, and if you do, tell her ASAP!
Post # 7
I’m not pregnant (trying! 🙂 ) but I probably wouldn’t go. For no real specific reason but that it would be a lot of travelling so late in the pregnancy. I think it’s perfectly fine to sit it out and hope she’s understanding that you are looking out for you, and your unborn little one. 🙂
Best of luck!
Post # 8
I don’t even think the airlines would let you. But even if they did, I would not risk that.
Post # 9
Thanks all! I imagine I will be *huge* at that point and that would make it really uncomfortable to travel.
Post # 10
@DaneLady: Puerto Rico is a US Territory, not a foreign country.
@loveknows: Personally, I’d do it unless my doctor told me not to, and as long as I were not beyond the airline’s restrictions. I would probably try to upgrade to first class to be more comfortable. I’d sort out the upgrade in advance though, either paying for it outright or using miles, and I wouldn’t go to the airport hoping they’d throw a freebie my way. In gereral I like to fly a lot, and if I’m close enough to the bride that she’d want me in her wedding party, I’d feel like I was really missing out to not go. I also know that planning ahead makes any trip more comfortable and safer, so I’d line up a car service to get me from the airport to the hotel instead of fussing with taxi’s, and I’d pack really light or maybe even ship my dress in advance so I wouldn’t have to drag the kitchen sink along behind me.
But considering how most American health insurance policies will provide coverage in Puerto Rico (since it’s a US territory), and how the major cities in Puerto Rico have good hospitals in case of an emergency, I wouldn’t consider it too risky at all. If the destination were further away or to a less developed country, or if I couldn’t get a nonstop flight, though, I might not feel so likely to go.
Post # 11
Nope, I wouldn’t risk it. 🙁
Post # 12
You’re not being selfish, and no one would dare think or say so. You’re being smart and safe. Do what’s best for you and little one, even if it means politely bowing out of the wedding party and event altogether.
Frankly, in my opinion, it comes down to too many “what if’s?” that could negatively affect my (and my baby’s) health if I attempted to travel/fly and endure the stress of being in a wedding party at a destination wedding that late in my pregnancy. I wouldn’t even do it.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I personally wouldn’t risk it that far along in the pregnancy. I think my cut off would be 32 weeks unless my doctor said I had to stop travel prior to then.
Post # 14
Nope. It wouldn’t matter if it was Puerto Rico, Dallas, LA, NYC, etc. I would not have any desire to travel on a plane at that point. Honestly, I can’t imagine it even being that fun.
Post # 15
@fishbone: Oh derp. I don’t know why but I thought she said Caribbean. Thanks 🙂
Post # 16
I would not fly that close to my due date, especially internationally.
My friend (the bride) had a bm who got pregnant during the wedding planning process too. My friend asked her to step down as a bm since she would be 32 weeks pregnant by the time of her wedding. The girl INSISTED she would be okay. Long story short, the bride will most likely be relieved if you step down on your own. You never know what will happen that late into the pregnancy.