(Closed) If you were a bridesmaid…

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
Member
1875 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would think that if a bride is requiring professional hair and makeup that she should pay.  But if she’s just setting up appointments, then I wouldn’t think twice about it. 

FWIW, I’ve always planned to get my hair professionally done, but that’s because I suck at hair.  I know others who are very good at doing their own (or have a sister or mom who’s very good at it) so I don’t think it’s fiar for brides to force their BMs to spend money when they don’t need to.

 

Post # 18
Member
1908 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I would just want to know ahead of time. This happened to me as a bridesmaid and the bride didn’t tell me until her wedding day that we had to pay! She called telling me to meet them and her house then we were meeting her hair stylist, it was $40 and I had to bring it in cash. Since it was fairly inexpensive I didn’t really mind but a heads up would have been nice.

The stylist didn’t really do much anyway…I asked her to put my hair up and she told me that was impossible with my hair (trust me it isn’t). So all she did was curl my hair until I kind of looked like a poodle. I think I would have rather gone somewhere else or done it myself but it was her day and she was happy with it so I just went with it. Up until the day both manicures/pedicures and hair were talked about but she never told us we had to pay or how much. For my nails I ended up not getting the “full treatment” which was $120 for each person. I just asked them for a basic manicure which was $14. I think the salon was pissed off at me but the bride didn’t care. I didn’t prepare to bring that kind of money with me so I didn’t have it. I had just started a new job and wasn’t ready to pay that much.

I’m letting my bridesmaids do whatever they want. They’re welcome to make an appointment at the salon with me and pay for it themselves or do something on their own. I’ve seen all of them do their own hair very nicely, so I really don’t want to force them to spend the money if they don’t have it. I don’t have it to pay for them or I would but it is not in my budget for five girls.

Post # 19
Member
2191 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@chelseakayd:  I would think that’s fine And I would get it Done

Post # 20
Member
2039 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@chelseakayd:  I would tell her how great I m at doing my own hair and show her pics of what I plan to do/have done before on my own hair. If she was unhappy with my skills, I’d just do as she asks.

Post # 21
Member
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@chelseakayd:  I wouldn’t be happy. I’m used to doing my own hair. If the bride insists on getting it professionally done, she should pay.

Post # 22
Member
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It depends on how much I’ve already spent and how pushy the bride is being. Although in fairness my hair is pretty unruly, so it might be better to get it done professionally. 

Post # 23
Member
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I agreed to pay for my own hair to be done for my FSIL’s wedding….but NOT for $100 which is what the Maid/Matron of Honor – a hairdresser – wants to charge us. NEGATIVE. 

Post # 24
Member
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@chelseakayd:  I think I’d probably just do it. In my head I might be like “crap this is going to cost me more money” but I’m super afraid of confrontation so I would most likely bite my tongue and pay. 

Post # 25
Member
639 posts
Busy bee

I had to do it for the most recent wedding I was in and it wasn’t a big deal for a couple of reasons.

1. We got to pick our own hairstyle

2. We knew this was going to be an expense from the beginning so we could budget for it nearly a year in advance.

3. It cost $65 — which included an 18% tip.

Post # 26
Member
111 posts
Blushing bee

It depends on my budget and what I have already paid for. If I have already shelled out money for the shower, shower gift, bachelorette party, dress, shoes, hotel, etc. and hair was an extra $50 or more (if I was REQUESTED to get it done), I would be a little miffed.

Post # 27
Member
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@chelseakayd:  To be honest, I am very opposed to the whole bridesmaid/groomsmen thing.  So, 1) I would refuse to pay for something I did not wish to do; and 2) because that will just lead to trouble, I would refuse to be a bridesmaid all together.

Post # 28
Member
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@chelseakayd:  I would do it, as where I am from, it is common for bridesmaids to pay for things like that. I feel like when you accept the title of bridesmaid, you are also accepting the duties and expenses that come along with it.

Post # 29
Member
32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was just in a wedding as a Bridesmaid or Best Man and I had to pay for my own hair and makeup. A few years ago when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man i paid for my own hair and had half of my makeup paid for. I need to budget some money, but I think I will be paying for the girls makeup and having them pay for their hair (I’m having some of the girls go to their regular hair salon so we don’t have to start super early getting ready). I think I’m going to pay for MOHs hair and makeup tho.

Post # 30
Member
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i’ve had to do this. i suck at doing my own hair, so i just paid to have it done. not a big deal to me. was the money tight? mhm. but i’d set aside money at the beginning of the bridesmaid process to cover expenses.

Post # 31
Member
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@chelseakayd:  I would like to be given the option of having my hair done or doing it myself. If the bride was going to pay for it, than that’s fine, but otherwise I would be put off if she insisted it be done and I foot the bill.

The topic ‘If you were a bridesmaid…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors