(Closed) If you were a bridesmaid…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
Member
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think this always depends on budget.  I don’t want to spend a fortune to be in someone’s wedding.  Just being honest.  

Post # 33
Member
1163 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@chelseakayd:  I would say okay, and get my hair done, but that’s because the only talent I have doing my hair is straightening it with the straightener. (read: not very talented). Maybe if I was a bit better at doing my own hair (and makeup), and I was in this position, I would do it myself.

It seems like she is pretty easy-going about the situation, and since she’s not paying, she’s giving the bridesmaids creative control. It woul dbe much worse if she said that bridesmaids had to pay for their own hair and it had to have extensions, be in an up-do, etc. etc.

 

Post # 34
Member
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d think it was odd. Because in my area, circle, its generally accepted that the bride and groom pay for everything.

Post # 35
Member
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I were a bridesmaid, I absolutely would, and I would do it without any hesitation or complaint. I genuinely wouldn’t mind at all. However, I wouldn’t ask my own girls to do it 🙂

Post # 36
Member
7607 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was asked to do this. I just did it because I just didn’t think to say no and I’m terrible at doing my own hair. I would do it again in a heart beat as long as I can afford it.

I personally didn’t ask anything of my BMs except that they purchase my dress. However, whenever I agree to being in a wedding I do financially prepare for them to ask me for the whole shebang. I wouldn’t say yes to someone unless I was close to them and if I’m close to them I don’t mind paying for those extras (shoes, hair, nails, shower, bachelorette, make up). I would put my foot down if they wanted something super expensive but for the most part I just expect to spend this money.

Post # 37
Member
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If the bride is requiring the bridesmaids to have their hair professionally done/in a certain style, she needs to pay. 

If I was a bridesmaid, I would likely just do my own hair.

ETA: I gave my girls the option of having their hair and makeup done professionally and gave them the prices that my salon charges. They were more than welcome to go another route, as well. Three out of four chose to have their hair done and will be doing their own makeup.

 

Post # 38
Member
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If she is requiring it be done professionally then she should pay. If she just says you can do your hair however then I don’t think she has to pay if they choose to go to a salon although it is a nice gesture.

Post # 39
Member
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It would depend on how much I had already spent (on the dress, shoes, travel etc).

Post # 40
Member
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@chelseakayd:  I would think that’s fair. I’m an adult who works and if I choose to accept the role of bridesmaid, I choose to accept the “worse case scenario” of paying for a $250 dress that I might not like, for my own hair and my own makeup. 

 

Post # 41
Member
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

View original reply
@lina010:  +1

Post # 42
Member
2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@chelseakayd:  I would be annoyed, to be honest.

I think the bride should pay if she requires a certain style; she requires a specific hairdresser; or she requires it professionally done.

While it’s likely that I would get my hair done professionally, there are cases that I don’t, such as a simple down-do.  Or, I know someone who can do it for $30, so why would I pay $60 to the selected hair dresser?

I’d be much happier paying a hair dresser if I choose to than paying for one because the bride tells me to.

Post # 43
Member
6518 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@chelseakayd:  I would do it w/o question.

I know that weddings are expensive, but I would suck it up, its a once in a lifetime event and as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, you mean a lot to the bride. 🙂

Post # 44
Member
1460 posts
Bumble bee

If it was a style I could do myself, I wouldn’t let anyone touch my hair. If it was some off the wall type stuff and I wasn’t familiar with the stylist she chose, I’d ask for the picture to take to my own stylist and pay her myself. I’m really protective of my hair, I have a sensitive scalp and not everyone knows how to handle my curls so no I wouldn’t expect the bride to pay for my hair to be done.

Post # 45
Member
3194 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@chelseakayd:  i was in exactly this situation last year and didn’t mind a bit. paid my $60 and was jazzed to be in her wedding. end of story.

Post # 46
Member
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@chelseakayd:  my maids were expecting to pay for their hair and makeup.  they asked me the cost a few weeks ago.  i asked them why it mattered.  they said so they could pay.  i told them they didn’t need to know the cost because i was paying.

they were very thankful and said i had already done too much.

they are my friends in my wedding, it is something i am very happy to do.

 

The topic ‘If you were a bridesmaid…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors