(Closed) If you were delivering naturally…

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Who would be allowed in the room with you aside from the medical team?

    NO ONE.

    My partner only.

    Immediate family (partner and kids)

    Immediate and extended family

    Anyone who wants to check it out!

  • Post # 17
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    Honey Beekeeper

    I’d have my husband in there with me. But he’d stay up by my head/holding my hand the whole time.

    Post # 18
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    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Considering I’m going for completely natural (vaginal + unmedicated) I’m thinking it will be just my midwife & DH here (at home)… I’d like my mom here BUT I know that DS will be VERY distracting in labor so I’m thinking I might have her take him.

    Maybe I’ll get my bestie to take him and have my momma here… or maybe the other way around… idk. lol

    I do want DS here when the lil bean is born though.. and we’ve talking about DH “catching” it!

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I had a natural birth at home and my labor kept slowing down every time the midwife came near me (even though I really liked her and had no reason to stress). So my doula suggested my husband and I labor quietly alone in the bedroom, and the midwife and doula only came in to check on me every 15 minutes. This helped a lot! So in my experience, fewer people in the room allows for a faster labor. My labor was 21 hours so anything to speed it up is appreciated!

    Post # 20
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    When I gave birth, most of the time it was just my husband.  My BIL/SIL did show up about an hour or so before I went into labor.  But anytime the nures/doctor needed to check things everyone left except my husband. 

     

     

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I wish you could pick more than one – I would want my Fiance and my mother or aunt 

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I’m not having kids anytime real soon, but I have thought about this.  I’d for sure want my husband there, and I’ve even thought about one of my two BFF’s – but I think that would cause issues if I had my friend there and not my mom, and I’m pretty certain I couldn’t have my mom there.  I love her, but she gets very emotional and is all into feelings and everything, and I can have a very irritable reaction to that when I’m under some kind of stress or exertion (such as, I imagine, delivering a baby).  I think I’d do a lot better in that situation with my friends, who are incredibly supportive but a little more straight-shooting and levelheaded and not overly gushy.  (I imagine myself in this scenario as a lot like Miranda in Sex and the City, who threatened to kill any nurse who came over and did the “Breathe!  You’re doing sooooo good!” cheerleading thing.)

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Our plan is for just DH, my Mom has no interest in being in the room (She says having done it 3 times herself was more than enough LOL), which is good, because I think I like the idea of it just being us, and the medical team in there. I would also allow nursing students/medical students/residents etc in there, because I was a nursing student who needed the esperience once as well!

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think half my family will be there as well as my Mother-In-Law. When I did this 13 years ago I had my mom, aunt, and grandmother in there with me as well as several nurses and a NICU team. So I don’t see why it should be any different this time…lol. And i did opt for the mirror last time and even got to touch his head when he crowned….that was pretty awesome!

    Post # 25
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Fiance only, though I would consider my Mom. Most likely, just Fiance though.

    For the record though, they would both need to be near MY head. Neither of them, Fiance included, would be watching that come out. I know it’s “beautiful” but to me it just is way too personal. The people who have this in their job description can go ahead, but not Fiance. Or mom if she was in there.

    Post # 26
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Oh, and students would be cool as well. I considered that part of the “job description” rant. Having been a student in a hospital, I wouldn’t be able to say no.

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2008

    There is a rule at my birth center that you can choose three people, before it gets a little too crowded, and they want a strong support system. For my sister, she had her husband, our mom and me. For me I would be comfortable with that as well, just my hubby, momma and my sister. NO ONE ELSE. lol

    Post # 28
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think when the time comes I will have DH and my mom. I have said only DH for so long but knowing my mom she will want to be in there. We are very close and she had 3 all natural vaginal (no meds) births so I think she could be a big help.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I am still not sure about this. I know I want DH & a doula. I’m not sure if I want my mom, but I know she wants to be there. Three people plus doctors and nurses just seems like a lot!

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My sons dad was there with me all the way. I could not say that he was very helpful. I felt like slapping him all the time because he was a tad too sensitive during that moment to cope with me during delivery. But it turned out ok.

    Post # 31
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    You said “naturally” but I wonder if you mean “vaginally.” I had both a natural and a vaginal delivery. Besides my midwife and the nurses, I only had my husband in the room.  I guess if I had the means to afford a doula, I would have her in there as well, but definitely not any additional family or friends. That’s just my personal preference.

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