(Closed) If you were in my party, what would your opinion be?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you rather do as a bridesmaid?

    Pay $40-$50 to have make up done at the church

    Travel 25 minutes and pay $40 to get Bare Minerals (before or after hair?)

    Travel 20 minutes to a department store and get it done for free (before or after hair?)

    Do it yourself and if you can't, get help from a bridal party member

    Other solution? Comment below!

  • Post # 3
    9919 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My hair and makeup (and that of my BMs) was significantly more expensive than that, so I think the rate is reasonable and would pay to do it at the church.  If your BMs think its too expensive, is there any way you could contribute and pay for it?

    Post # 4
    1906 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    no comparison. i got hair and makeup done at my place before the wedding (they came to us) and it was soooo good not rusing round town, let alone travel 30 mins!


    Post # 5
    6397 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Well I definitely wouldnt go to the department store unless you know who’s working and know they’ll do a good job. I’ve seen some truly ugly makeovers going on at those stations before.

    I would do it myself, personally. If I sucked at doing makeup then I’d probably pay the $40-50 and have it done at the church.

    Post # 6
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @abbie017:  Yep, my BM’s makeup prices are way higher than OP’s, too.


    And I agree with you about having the hair stylists/makeup artists come to you on the day of. I’m going that route as well because I just think it will be the least hectic and most fun way to do it (we’ll have a little breakfast bar & mimosa station set up for everyone). I also told my BMs that the people are coming to me and they are more than welcome to join in the pampering. However, it’s expensive (more-so than going to a salon anyway) so that I understood if they wanted to do their own thing. Unless you’re paying/contributing, it’s hard to tell them they HAVE to spend the money on it. 


    ETA: I chose that I would get ready with you at the church. I’d rather hang out with my friend before she gets married. Also, $40 for makeup is pretty cheap where I live, so it seems like a no-brainer. 

    Post # 7
    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wouldn’t want to pay 40-50 for JUST makeup, and I wouldn’t want to drive 40-45 minutes roundtrip for it either. 

    I would probably say I’ll do my own and find a friend to do it for me before I left for the church to get my hair done. 

    Post # 8
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Whatever option allows me to sleep in the longest. Every time I am a bridesmaid we end up getting up at 5 or something so everyone can get makeup done. So if someone comes to the church, hopefuly more than one person can come there and help.

    That said, I am terrible at hair and makeup, so either someone does it for me, or I would go without.

    Post # 9
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @lambjo:  I don’t think the prices are outrageous, but it sounds as though several of your bridesmaids may not want to fork over the money to have their makeup done at the church.  If it were me (and I didn’t want to pay $40-$50 for my makeup), I’d either do it myself or get another bridesmaid to do it for me.  I much prefer that option, as you’re still all together as you get ready but you’re not forced to spend the extra cash if you can’t and/or don’t want to.  For what it’s worth, I’m not amazing with makeup but I did my own when I was a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding several years ago (we all did our own, actually).  It turned out well, and I think everyone’s makeup looked nice in the pictures.

    Post # 10
    198 posts
    Blushing bee

    With regard to before or after hair, by vote is after! As for the options, if you’re paying $40-50 to get it done, it might as well be at the church instead of driving to Bare Minerals.


    I am not fond of the department store route, as it’s a game of chance with the level of expertise you’ll get. Often, the make-up counter attendants there are simply trained by the store and have no cosmetics background. (I had a very bad experience with this once. Alternatively, I have a friend who had a very good experience with this.)


    Maybe just give everyone the option of professional makeup at the church or doing it on their own if they so choose. That way, they aren’t forced to pay if they’d rather do it themselves (which is my personal preference.)


    Post # 11
    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No matter what you do, ALWAYS do make up after your hair.

    Post # 12
    8700 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    $50! I would WAY rather do it myself!

    Post # 13
    1149 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Could you have the make up artist come to the church and whoever wants to pay for it, they can, and if they don’t then they can do it on their own? I did that for my wedding and it worked out great.  Most of the girls paid to get their make up done (about the same price as you listed) and 2 of the BMs opted to do their own make up.

    Post # 14
    5995 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I hope I’m not stirring up trouble here, but I think in most places it is expected that if there is pro makeup, the bride pays. So the ideal option is you (the bride) pay $40-50 per person for the makeup artist to come to the church. Since that option wasn’t on the list, I voted do our own makeup.

    The two travelling options sound the worst – too much running around. The very fact that your BMs are open to travelling to save a few dollars says to me that they are concerned about the cost of being a Bridesmaid or Best Man. So if you feel that they agreed to pay makeup costs, but they don’t like the cost you’re quoting, another option is to split the cost to have it done at the church.

    Post # 15
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    To compare, my hair and makeup in DC (super super expensive area in general) cost $120, I couldn’t afford to do it for my bridal party so they all did it themselves. I would have loved to have found someone good who would have done it as cheap as $40.

    Post # 16
    1943 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’d pay the $40-50 to get it done at the church.  If I didn’t have that money, I’d just do it myself.  My BMs are just doing their own; if they had my makeup lady do them, it would be $95 plus tip, so your prices really aren’t bad.

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