(Closed) If you were in my position, what would you do?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: If you were in my position, what would you do?

    Start TTC in December

    Wait another year and reevaluate then

  • Post # 16
    865 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I would wait a year and try to knock a few other goals out in that time. Once you have children it will be very difficult to travel, and kids are expensive. Plus, then you’ll get to tell your kids about all of the amazing things mom and dad did when they were younger!

    I know PP have pointed out that if you have trouble concieving, you may wish you had those 12 months of trying under your belt, but if you have trouble conceiving, 12 months won’t change the situation drastically. One year is such a short amount of time; it will fly by, and to be one year behind on your plan shouldn’t throw things too out of whack. 

    Post # 17
    627 posts
    Busy bee

    It sounds like you two want everything. You want two kids, but don’t want to give up your lifestyle. That is possible if you work, but you also don’t want to do that. I think you need to evaluate what’s most important to you and prioritize. It’s hard to get by on a single income for most families, especially if they want to travel and have all the extras. Maybe you need to save up more money to draw from when you won’t be working (or else work). 

    Post # 18
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

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    juliette.eliza:  Another factor to consider, is that if you are on the pill, sometimes it can take a bit for your body to start operating on its own after you come off it. One of my best friends (who went on the pill right after she got married) and her hubby have been trying for about a year now, but I have heard of others who accidentally get pregnant in the midst of switching pills. You never really know. Personally, I would evaluate if there are things you still want to do “just as a couple” before the littles come along, do them, and then start trying. Once you have kids its gonna be about 18-20 years before it’s just you two again. 

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