Post # 1
Okay, so I have been dealing with the crazies in my family and everyone seems to be driving me insane all withing the same two weeks.
Well, rather than go over everything, I want to share with you one particular thing that I had no idea how to respond to! Maybe its just me. But damn. Lol
Sooo, I haven’t talked to my fathers mother in over 10 years, (I’m 22 years old), and she’s always been full of drama and the and she’s a manipulative , gossipy crazy woman. I’m totally uninterested in her in general.
Anyways, I reached out to her the other day to remind her about the RSVP deadline and whatever. She said of course she will be at the wedding. Then she called my dad that night, (for the first time in yearssss), and was asking him questions about the wedding. One of the questions was “what colors are her wedding?” And “what will all of the bridesmaids be wearing?” My dad told her pink and that the bridesmaids are all wearing pink mismatched dresses.
Well, not even 24 hours later she calls my dad and says “I just found a dress! Its pink! Amanda won’t mind me wearing what the bridesmaids are wearing, will she?
Umm…what??! Trust me, I’m farrr from a brideszilla and if ANY other guest showed up in pink it seriously wouldn’t even cross my mind. But i feel like the way she asked spesifically what my girls are wearing and then that night found a pink dress, its like she totally did this intentionaly. Like, I think she’s trying to make jabs. Ugh, just venting. Like I said, I’ve never had a good relationship with her and my entire life she has had drama with my parents and everything. She “disowned us” years ago – I sent her a curtisy invite.
How would you girls feel?
Post # 2
There’s no use arguing with crazy.
She got a courtesy invite, decided to come, and is now wearing the wedding colours. I’d just leave her to it, it’ll cause more drama and stress to even mention it. Every family has one 🙁
Post # 3
Personally, I’d just be glad she wasn’t wearing white. Nobody will notice or care if she’s in the same colors as the bridesmaids. I think your annoyance with this is just due to your bad relationship with her. Really, it’s not worth getting upset over. Just roll your eyes and move on.
Post # 4
yea it seems odd that she specifically asked what they were wearing and then bought a pink dress.
My Darling Husband doesn’t speak to his father’s mother either, she wasn’t invited to our wedding. But my SIL invited her to her wedding and not only was she extremly late to the ceremony and made a big commotion coming into the church, she had just went shopping, she came in with 3 large shopping bags from a department store in the neighborhood and best part..she wore BRIGHT WHITE, a bright white womens suit jacket with a pencil skirt, white shoes. Her dress was whiter than my SILs. It was one of those moments out of a movie when someone walks in late and everyone turns around to see who it is and then stares in shock. It was terrible
Post # 5
I’d wonder why in the hell a grandmother would want to match bridesmaids, but whatever, wouldn’t really care.
Post # 6
No one will notice or care, and it’s not worth putting stress on yourself about it anyway.
Post # 7
95% chance it isn’t the same shade of pink. Hooopefully. You will laugh about this later and also it is very unlikely that she would be in your pictures with your bridal party. For group pictures, tell the photographer to place her behind your dad or something ;p
Post # 8
One of my grandmothers came to my wedding wearing the same color as my bridesmaids. Did I care? not one bit. She was so excited that she had found something that matched, it made her feel included. Granted, her outfit was entirely age appropriate, and in no way looked like she was trying to pretend to be a bridesmaid, just the same color. Hopefully it will be the same for you.
Let it go, no one will care what your grandmother is wearing, no need to make a fuss out of it.
Post # 9
It’s strange, but did you expect anything less from her? Shesll be the one looking silly so let her.
Post # 10
She’s crazy, you know she’s crazy – don’t waste any more time worrying about her. Unless she bought the same dress as the bridesmaids, guests will probably think, “Aww how cute, grandma matches”. I wouldn’t think twice about it.
Post # 11
Crazy is as crazy does.
My Mother-In-Law wore almost the same color as the bridesmaids, to my daughter’s wedding. She had asked what color they were wearing – we thought, that as a courtesy, she wouldn’t wear the same color. Of course she was heard to say out loud repeatedly (and quite loudly) at the wedding “I look just like a bridesmaid.” Sure lady … 65 years older, jacket vs. strapless, and their figure differences …
Post # 12
So funny! I mean, like I said, I’m not totally stressing about by any means – I just thought it was wild that she would do that. I mean, wearing all white would be worse. That’s crazy some of the stories I read.
Like I said, I’m not going to say anything to her or make a big fuss out of it. I just thought it was…interesting… That she chose a pink dress and even mentioned looking like a bridesmaid.
Just one more thing about my wedding I can smile and roll my eyes at 🙂 🙂
Post # 13
I think that I’d have the same reaction if I knew she was crazy and probably doing it on purpose. But for the actual wearing of a pink dress, I wouldn’t think twice about it. My mom wore the same color as the BMs for my wedding, not intentionally at all, but people can obviously see she’s not one of the BMs. 😛
Post # 14
I wouldn’t even care. You know she’s off so this really shouldn’t be a surprise. This will only have an impact on your day if you let it. Breathe and let it go.
Post # 15
I would whinge about it to my FH and then move on.
And then occasionally whinge about it again.
And then laugh about it later.
It seems she did it intentionally. That would annoy me.