(Closed) If you were me, how'd you feel?!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1424 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

There’s no use arguing with crazy.

She got a courtesy invite, decided to come, and is now wearing the wedding colours. I’d just leave her to it, it’ll cause more drama and stress to even mention it. Every family has one ๐Ÿ™

Post # 3
9544 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Personally, I’d just be glad she wasn’t wearing white. Nobody will notice or care if she’s in the same colors as the bridesmaids. I think your annoyance with this is just due to your bad relationship with her. Really, it’s not worth getting upset over. Just roll your eyes and move on. 

Post # 4
6524 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Amanda905:  yea it seems odd that she specifically asked what they were wearing and then bought a pink dress. 

My Darling Husband doesn’t speak to his father’s mother either, she wasn’t invited to our wedding. But my SIL invited her to her wedding and not only was she extremly late to the ceremony and made a big commotion coming into the church, she had just went shopping, she came in with 3 large shopping bags from a department store in the neighborhood and best part..she wore BRIGHT WHITE, a bright white womens suit jacket with a pencil skirt, white shoes. Her dress was whiter than my SILs. It was one of those moments out of a movie when someone walks in late and everyone turns around to see who it is and then stares in shock. It was terrible

Post # 5
15002 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d wonder why in the hell a grandmother would want to match bridesmaids, but whatever, wouldn’t really care.

Post # 6
2440 posts
Buzzing bee

No one will notice or care, and it’s not worth putting stress on yourself about it anyway.

Post # 7
774 posts
Busy bee

95% chance it isn’t the same shade of pink. Hooopefully. You will laugh about this later and also it is very unlikely that she would be in your pictures with your bridal party. For group pictures, tell the photographer to place her behind your dad or something ;p

Post # 8
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

One of my grandmothers came to my wedding wearing the same color as my bridesmaids. Did I care? not one bit. She was so excited that she had found something that matched, it made her feel included. Granted, her outfit was entirely age appropriate, and in no way looked like she was trying to pretend to be a bridesmaid, just the same color. Hopefully it will be the same for you.

Let it go, no one will care what your grandmother is wearing, no need to make a fuss out of it.

Post # 9
1041 posts
Bumble bee

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Amanda905:  It’s strange, but did you expect anything less from her? Shesll be the one looking silly so let her.

Post # 10
5153 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Amanda905:  She’s crazy, you know she’s crazy – don’t waste any more time worrying about her. Unless she bought the same dress as the bridesmaids, guests will probably think, “Aww how cute, grandma matches”. I wouldn’t think twice about it. 

Post # 11
4037 posts
Honey bee

Crazy is as crazy does.

My Mother-In-Law wore almost the same color as the bridesmaids, to my daughter’s wedding. She had asked what color they were wearing – we thought, that as a courtesy, she wouldn’t wear the same color. Of course she was heard to say out loud repeatedly (and quite loudly) at the wedding “I look just like a bridesmaid.” Sure lady … 65 years older, jacket vs. strapless, and their figure differences … 

Post # 13
1462 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I think that I’d have the same reaction if I knew she was crazy and probably doing it on purpose. But for the actual wearing of a pink dress, I wouldn’t think twice about it. My mom wore the same color as the BMs for my wedding, not intentionally at all, but people can obviously see she’s not one of the BMs. ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 14
7369 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I wouldn’t even care. You know she’s off so this really shouldn’t be a surprise. This will only have an impact on your day if you let it. Breathe and let it go.

Post # 15
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would whinge about it to my FH and then move on. 

And then occasionally whinge about it again. 

And then laugh about it later. 

It seems she did it intentionally. That would annoy me. 

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