(Closed) If you were me, how'd you feel?!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 16
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Amanda905:  This would really anger me as well, but you can’t say anything to her because it would give her some form of satisfaction. Whether she’s looking for a fight, looking to upset you, or really wants the spotlight of ‘look I’m in the wedding too!’, you don’t have any control in how she acts. 

The less attention you give her antics, the less anyone will connect it to you. If she decides to up her dramatics, ignore it and she will appear like the crazy lady she is. 

Post # 17
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Amanda905:  I would be a little annoyed because it does seem as though she did it on purpose. But you don’t seem to be stressing too much. People won’t notice and if they do I think the awkwardness will be on her part matching the bridesmaids who (I am assuming) are much younger than her lol. Crazy family!!

Post # 18
1780 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

well its not like itll be the same dres…and not to sound rude to older ladies…but my grannie had like no kidding 15 different pink dresses in all shades of pink that she wore to several weddings several of which had pink bridesmaid dresses….my cousin got in a tizzy over it….and my grannie was confused she said she just tried not clash with the pink theme (bridemaids wore seriously a barbie bright PINK!) grannies dress was a soft pearl/blush color…..she just liked it….both of her sisters had a pechant for pinkish dresses saying the felt feminine in them…and she didnt want to “look like a harrlot in red” lol….she was a fun woman….at every family wedding she tried to coordinate with the colors….maybe its a generational thing….and alot of the age appropriate dresses for the grandma of someone in their 20’s range are in blush/pinks/rose colors it seems (atleast thats how it was last year when we helped DH’s memaw pick out a dress, esp this time of year)

i totally agree with a pp about maybe it stands out more because of your history with her….maybe she’s trying to be a b**** about it maybenot….either way if she makes a spectacle of herself, i say as long as its not the bridesmaid dresses who cares….

Post # 19
1580 posts
Bumble bee

I personally think it’s a great idea for guests, especially family, to ask about the wedding colors and bridesmaid colors so they can pick out outfits that DO match.  In the end, it leads to great family pictures.  Seriously don’t sweat what other people are wearing.  Come the day, you won’t even notice.

Post # 21
1308 posts
Bumble bee

I would feel nothing.  It’s your own damn fault you sent a “courtesy” invite to someone who was a crappy parent to you.  Sorry, this is completely self inflicted.  If you are mad at anyone, be mad at yourself.

Post # 22
2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

This shit is hilarious!  I would be mightily pissed, BUT! Just let her wear pink, let her make a fool of herself, imagine old wrinkly hag trying to look like a 20-something? this will be funny and anyway she won’t be in many pictures. 

Post # 24
4815 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Amanda905:   Perhaps she is hoping to be mistaken for a … bridesmatron?  LOL  

Seriously, I’d be annoyed, given your description of her personality.  In the grand scheme of things, it will only make her look bad.  Hang in there!!

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