(Closed) If you were me what would you do? Elope Or Not to Elope

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

If it’s how you want to do it, I say go for it & all the more power to you. There are only 2 things I’d consider at this point: your deposits (on the vendor) & further alienating your family… They’re really the only 2 things you have to lose.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Would you regret it?

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just make sure you can live with your decision for the rest of your life..

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Does eloping feel right for the two of you? Would it further strain important relationships? Would such strain actually be bothersome to you? Would you regret not having certain people there to witness your wedding?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Personally, I would never elope, especially if I would lose deposits or if I had already invited people.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It sounds like going through with the wedding would just make for an unnecessarily stressful experience for you.  If you really feel like no one cares about it, then what’s the point in spending a bunch of money on those people if they’re not really supportive or enthusiastic?

Weigh your options in terms of money and what will be more meaningful for the both of you.  Feel free to PM me too, since Fiance and I decided to elope after much discussion as well.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It sounds like you need to re-evaluate your wedding. Sit down with your Fiance and think about the things that are important to the two of you and whether you can achieve them by eloping. Try to get away from your ideas about what a wedding is supposed to be and really consider what matters most to the two of you.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Your situations sound exactly like Fiance and me, and we are eloping. It’s different for us because he has a huge family we lives out of state and we just moved here so we don’t really have friend local. We had originally planned on a bigger wedding but in the end decided that it would be to much trouble/ to expensive for the few people who could make it since we would be paying for their travel and all that. In the end it your choice and only you know if it will make you sad/regretful, but so far I really don’t feel we are gonna regret it, expectually since the less we spend on the wedding the move we get to spend on the honeymoon 🙂

Post # 11
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Worker bee

My fiance and I are also getting married on May 19. We have only paid the deposit for the venue and ordered save the dates. We are in the process of getting everything planned. My Fiance has brought up just eloping because of family issues and we are now considering it I think. I would say, it is going to make you happy then do it. Wedding planning is very stressful. I wish you the best of luck.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

How do you know they don’t care? Did they tell you?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am also in the same boat… Thinking whether to elope or not. But sometimes eloping may sound like a harsh word when it doesnt have to be. If you choose to elope, say the two of you preferred a more intimate wedding. I like the sound of that better than eloping! I wish you the best of luck!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel the same exact way. I am so excited to have found the one but trying to plan a celebration for it is just a reminder of the relationships I don’t have. It really hurts to not have the family and the friend support most brides do. Aside from the emotional support, it is damn hard to plan a wedding by yourself! I think you should elope. Ultimately, marriage will be between you and your Fiance. I don’t know your whole story, but it sounds better to just share the special moment with the one you love rather than spending a lot of money for a crowd of on lookers thats don’t really care. If you still have a small handfull of people you do want to share this with, why not have a small reception or dinner after you get married to celebrate?

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is actually my wedding date as well and we just decided to elope. We have very little family and friends due to moving and they are so spread out it was becoming difficult to get them together. We will probably just come back and have a grill out. 🙂 and wear wedding attire and do the first dance there. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

If at the end of the day you wont look back and think “why didnt i give myself that big day where its all about me” then elope. 

If i didnt have like 300 friends and family that would happily attend my wedding…i would definitely elope!

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