(Closed) If you were me, would you elope?

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
3770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I think ultimately you need to have a good long conversation with your Fiance about the pros and cons, and also about what the two of you want.  It sounds like he really wants the traditional wedding, you really wanted the elopement but now you could go for both.  And just because he has softened to the idea of an elopement doesn’t necessarily mean he would be satisfied with it.  Which will make both of you the happiest, that you can look back on it without regret?  So basically, my advice is to really talk it out with your Fiance >_<

Congrats on getting accepted to your PhD program though, yeah!!

Post # 4
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I say don’t rush into a decision, give yourself time to really reflect on both options.

When was the wedding planned for? Are you able to just wait a few weeks or a both to weigh up the pros and cons of both?

Post # 5
196 posts
Blushing bee

I’d say think about what you want to do and talk it out with your fiance before you invest any more money.  If you want to elope because the stress of moving right before the wedding is going to make you insane, can you move the wedding up to before your cross-country move?  Can you move the wedding to where your new location will be?  Will you or your fiance regret not having something more traditional if you elope?  I think elopments are great, but it sounds like you both would rather have a small traditional wedding.  Can your fiance take over some of the details so that you are less stressed?

Post # 6
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

What is the sense of dread and stress you feel – can you explain what it’s about specifically?  Planning a wedding and doing a PhD?


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