(Closed) If you were my guest, how would you feel….

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Would you be offended if you sat in the loft?

    Yes, I would feel like an afterthought.

    It wouldn't be my first choice, but I wouldn't say anything about it.

    I would be fine with it and wouldn't think twice!

    I'd prefer it!

  • Post # 32
    920 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    i love it! if it was me, i would have all my younger friends sit up top. 

    Post # 33
    438 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Idk. Logistically I see it being frustrating. If the dancing and party is downstairs, then your guests from upstairs would be going back and forth. What if they are dancing and want to sit down for a few minutes? Or they don’t like a song? Then they have to go all the way back upstairs and then back down again. What if people want to mingle? They wont be able to see the sweetheart table from the loft unless they are right by the edge. I just don’t like the idea regardless. Sorry :/ 

    Post # 34
    3728 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @FutureMrsT1221:  It depends on how big the wedding was and who I was in relation to you. If I was a coworker or a not super close friend, go for it! If I was your sister in law or BFF, it would seem strange. I think you should do table placement carefully to ensure the elderly and family are below, but I would go for it!

    Also, it would only work with rounds, not long tables. That would make me think jr high which would make me wonder why I was the outcast again.

    Post # 36
    127 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I went to a wedding like this, was seated up top, and was not offended a bit.  I think the only people that sat on the main floor were family and the bridal party.  After dinner everyone up top migrated down to the dance floor – and like a pp said, it made for a lively party scene. 

    I keep stressing over trying to make everyone happy and it’s just not possible.  I totally understand, I’ve almost been/have been in tears several times about this wedding.  It feels so good to get a big decision crossed off your list!   I would do it!  

    Post # 37
    919 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think if you divide the guest list well and put people up there that wouldn’t feel singled out, it would be fine. Personally, I’d love to be up there! 

    Post # 38
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Your venue is so nice! I would definitely not be offended at all if I had to sit in the loft, especially since there would be 50 other people up there with me!

    Post # 39
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    i wouldn’t think twice about it. i like it actually!

    Post # 40
    4813 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    @FutureMrsT1221:   I’d actually prefer it!  If you go this route I’d suggest putting plenty of very important guests up there (if not the bridal party!!) to be *sure* no one gets the wrong idea.  I don’t think they will, but just to be on the safe side!  🙂  Great venue, BTW!!!

    Post # 41
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think it’s perfectly fine! Don’t stress over it! It will be fine, and everyone will have a good time. It’s not like they are in a completely separate room! (which I have been to and also worked just fine). I think it’s a good idea what the PP have said about putting the younger crowd up there.

    Post # 43
    9087 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Could you move the dance floor upstairs instead? That way you could fit more tables on the lower floor and not exclude anyone.

    I think guests on the loft level would miss things especially if they were seated at the back.

    Post # 44
    4045 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    It would depend. I went to an outdoor wedding where all the guests were seated in this main courtyard area, including the bride and groom. Then there were two tables off to the side under this patio, where I was seated. We felt so oddly excluded. We couldn’t see everything (plants in the way), and the sound system was not at all set up to direct sound to us, so we never heard the speeches.

    I think it could work in your venue. You’d need to make sure there are more than just a few tables (which you say you can do), and make sure it’s not all the distant people. I think it would be fine in that case, but you do need to play it carefully.

    Post # 45
    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @FutureMrsT1221:  I would be fine with it. The only thing, and other posters may have said this because I did not read, I would put younger people up there unless there is an elevator. You dont want to make old people climb the stairs. Then the people seperated might think, oh I am up here so granny doesn’t have to climb the stairs, no prob!

    Post # 46
    11518 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @Bearimbolo:  this is exactly what I was going to say – have the VIPs up top, the bridal party up top, that way people may feel less like they’re being relegated to the rafters.  AND you can do a great dramatic walk down the stairs for your first dance 🙂

    I’ve seen venues where the tables are actually in different rooms, people can’t even see each other.  I wouldn’t worry about it at all, it’s a beautiful venue 🙂

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