(Closed) If you were my guest, how would you feel….

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Would you be offended if you sat in the loft?

    Yes, I would feel like an afterthought.

    It wouldn't be my first choice, but I wouldn't say anything about it.

    I would be fine with it and wouldn't think twice!

    I'd prefer it!

  • Post # 92
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @FutureMrsT1221:  I love the venue!  One of my friends had a wedding like that with a loft and not one person made a comment about it.  Personally, if you are inviting someone to your wedding they are important to you and it dosen’t matter where they sit.  Anyone that would try to read to much into being sat in the loft has their own personal issues to work out.

    Post # 93
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    @FutureMrsT1221:  I think it looks lovely and wouldn’t be offended at all! I’d probably be quite excited to be sitting up there.

    Post # 94
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Love love love the way that venue looks! If I’m invited, I wouldn’t mind where I sat. Besides, the weddings I’ve gone to, I only sat down to eat and then I was up and talking or dancing all over the place.

    Post # 95
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: ...

    @FutureMrsT1221:  I’d be fine with it if I was with friends and not a random group of people – I agree with PP who suggested putting a younger crowd up there. I also think it would help if you made time to go up and talk to them during dinner, etc.

    Post # 96
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    Busy bee

    @FutureMrsT1221:  How about you make the loft seem special?

    Like maybe have a bartender up there or a live musician, something that makes the people not feel left out.

    Post # 97
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I wouldn’t care. Is there any way though that you can arrange things to sit everyone together? Move the dancefloor? move the bar? 

    But the young people upstairs.

    Post # 98
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    Bumble bee

    @FutureMrsT1221:  My sister’s venue looked exactly like yours. She put all her friends and their dates in the loft, had a separate bar up there, and they loved it! Plus during the dancing (on the main floor), they were the people enjoying themselves and didn’t care that their seats were upstairs, since they weren’t sitting.

    When they did the first dances, cake cutting, etc, everyone just stood by the balcony and watched – it actually gave them a better view. One of the photogs went up there to capture too!

    Post # 99
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    I definitely wouldn’t mind if I was seated in the loft with all of our college friends or something like that. It would be nice if there was a bartender or something up in the loft for dinner so that your guests didn’t have to go downstairs to refill their drinks. After dinner, all of our college friends spent most of the night on the dance floor, so it wouldn’t have mattered where their seats were.

    Post # 100
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    it’s beautiful! i wouldn’t care. if i wanted to socialize, i would get up and walk around or meet you on the dance floor. i was pretty sensitive about a half wall in the middle of my reception space and if my guests would feel isolated.

    but honestly, as long as people can see what’s going on (toasts, first dance, etc), they really don’t care. and when they’re talking to you, it’s mostly when they are standing up and near the bar or on the dance floor. the seat is such a small part of the experience.

    Post # 101
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @OnceUponATime:  This is a really good idea!!

    Definitely don’t make it an A-list, B-list thing. Like OnceUponATime said, stick the young people up there (be they your best friends or your second cousins you never see) and then put the older people downstairs (be they your parents or your parents clients). Then the distinction is obviously NOT about being a second-tier friend.

    Post # 102
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @FutureMrsT1221:  I also would *not* put “VIPs” in the loft. That *would* feel like a slight (at least to me), because, realistically, you’d spend more time in the loft with your closest friends/family. If you mix the “VIPs”(hate that term) between floors you’ll have to move around to see everyone, and that is the best way to ensure no one feels slighted and that you are an attentive hostess.

    EDIT: I also agree with PPs that you could put something special in the loft, in part to encourage mingling (downstairs guests will go upstairs to see what the fuss is about).

    Post # 103
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

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    @OnceUponATime:  this is what I was thinking! Seat younger people (obviously no one with mobility issues or people carrying babies) up there each with at least somebody they know and I think it’ll be fine. If I wasn’t your grandma or closest friend or something, I don’t think I’d care at all where my seat was, you’re supposed to be up visiting and dancing anyway!

    We sat our friends/bridal party and their dates towards the back and the family/older people  towards the front at our reception since we figured younger people would be up and about dancing/drinking  more. 

    Post # 104
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m a really chill guest, so I wouldn’t care either way.

    Post # 105
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    Helper bee

    I think its fine. I think they would only feel like afterthoughts if they cannot see you or the festivities. Other than that I would be fine!

    Post # 106
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    Busy bee

    Lol! Can’t believe how many people have said they would feel offended at being in the loft, like they are second class. Really?! Way over-thinking things, lol.

    The venue looks awesome. I think the loft is cool! It’s just a space. I wouldn’t expect the elderly or anyone else with mobility problems to get up there, but that’s the only thing.

    It’s not like you selected that venue intending to segregate people…. you can’t have every single person close to you in any venue. It’s just a room. People will be up and down and moving around and visiting anyway.

    People will always find something to get their panties in a bunch about. 

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