- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Love love love the way that venue looks! If I’m invited, I wouldn’t mind where I sat. Besides, the weddings I’ve gone to, I only sat down to eat and then I was up and talking or dancing all over the place.
I wouldn’t care. Is there any way though that you can arrange things to sit everyone together? Move the dancefloor? move the bar?
But the young people upstairs.
@FutureMrsT1221: My sister’s venue looked exactly like yours. She put all her friends and their dates in the loft, had a separate bar up there, and they loved it! Plus during the dancing (on the main floor), they were the people enjoying themselves and didn’t care that their seats were upstairs, since they weren’t sitting.
When they did the first dances, cake cutting, etc, everyone just stood by the balcony and watched – it actually gave them a better view. One of the photogs went up there to capture too!
I definitely wouldn’t mind if I was seated in the loft with all of our college friends or something like that. It would be nice if there was a bartender or something up in the loft for dinner so that your guests didn’t have to go downstairs to refill their drinks. After dinner, all of our college friends spent most of the night on the dance floor, so it wouldn’t have mattered where their seats were.
it’s beautiful! i wouldn’t care. if i wanted to socialize, i would get up and walk around or meet you on the dance floor. i was pretty sensitive about a half wall in the middle of my reception space and if my guests would feel isolated.
but honestly, as long as people can see what’s going on (toasts, first dance, etc), they really don’t care. and when they’re talking to you, it’s mostly when they are standing up and near the bar or on the dance floor. the seat is such a small part of the experience.
Definitely don’t make it an A-list, B-list thing. Like OnceUponATime said, stick the young people up there (be they your best friends or your second cousins you never see) and then put the older people downstairs (be they your parents or your parents clients). Then the distinction is obviously NOT about being a second-tier friend.
EDIT: I also agree with PPs that you could put something special in the loft, in part to encourage mingling (downstairs guests will go upstairs to see what the fuss is about).
We sat our friends/bridal party and their dates towards the back and the family/older people towards the front at our reception since we figured younger people would be up and about dancing/drinking more.
I’m a really chill guest, so I wouldn’t care either way.
I think its fine. I think they would only feel like afterthoughts if they cannot see you or the festivities. Other than that I would be fine!
Lol! Can’t believe how many people have said they would feel offended at being in the loft, like they are second class. Really?! Way over-thinking things, lol.
The venue looks awesome. I think the loft is cool! It’s just a space. I wouldn’t expect the elderly or anyone else with mobility problems to get up there, but that’s the only thing.
It’s not like you selected that venue intending to segregate people…. you can’t have every single person close to you in any venue. It’s just a room. People will be up and down and moving around and visiting anyway.
People will always find something to get their panties in a bunch about.
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